I happened to be walking with a social scientist one day, when we were stopped on the city sidewalk by this super-charismatic woman who was soliciting charity donations.
Besides having one-in-a-million looks (speaking as a photographer), her expression, tone, and manner conveyed that she was genuinely happy (not overly earnest, nor fake, nor pushy, nor airheaded/high) to be representing some charity, and she instantly liked us, and thought we might want to hear about this charity. (I did manage to keep my money, but I had a lot of practice dodging those street teams.)
After we walked away, the social scientist (also a woman) said, matter-of-factly, "No one has ever said an unkind word to her." I could imagine that being literally true.
I've met a number of very charismatic people, but they usually seem to have some awareness of it. I'm thinking maybe one of the higher tiers of charisma effect might be when the person doesn't know (or doesn't seem to know) how charismatic they are. Maybe they give the impression of seeing the world and others through a more appealing lens, and people respond well to that.
Leave no opening for others to be mean towards you. One of those is going about life not trying to push/get things out of people -- but to share in the "good vibes."
Genuine happiness, without an under-current of consciousnesses of the possible utility, has very little detractors -- like a child that is unabashedly excited about a Christmas present. Throughout time, people usually realize they can temporarily generate and express feelings, that can influence others and be used for self-interest (no matter how small. E.g. forcing yourself to be happy about a present you received). In turn, they lose authenticity for utility -- and I believe people can sense that on an intuitive level, and put up their guard.
Human interaction is all push and pull. Don't be another force trying to push on people, and they will get along with you.
Besides having one-in-a-million looks (speaking as a photographer), her expression, tone, and manner conveyed that she was genuinely happy (not overly earnest, nor fake, nor pushy, nor airheaded/high) to be representing some charity, and she instantly liked us, and thought we might want to hear about this charity. (I did manage to keep my money, but I had a lot of practice dodging those street teams.)
After we walked away, the social scientist (also a woman) said, matter-of-factly, "No one has ever said an unkind word to her." I could imagine that being literally true.
I've met a number of very charismatic people, but they usually seem to have some awareness of it. I'm thinking maybe one of the higher tiers of charisma effect might be when the person doesn't know (or doesn't seem to know) how charismatic they are. Maybe they give the impression of seeing the world and others through a more appealing lens, and people respond well to that.