Comments on: The Case For An Older Woman http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/02/16/the-case-for-an-older-woman/ The Official Blog of OkCupid.com Sat, 22 May 2010 04:30:59 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: PhotoDrew http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/02/16/the-case-for-an-older-woman/comment-page-11/#comment-11765 PhotoDrew Thu, 20 May 2010 03:23:07 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1357#comment-11765 Since I fit into this demographic I feel I need to comment. I'm 27. I've been dating younger the past year. The youngest I'll go is 21, but the oldest I'll go is 29. Although I've since upped the minimum to about 23 because the 21 year old party girl has lost it's fun. It doesn't please me that you'd rather spend more time drinking than doing something else with me, but hey that's how it is at that age. But, back on subject, my reasoning of dating younger is as follows: 1.) I'm not at a financially stable point in my life. I went back to school and work part time. Someone in a similar place in life is better for me. 2.) What seems like a large percentage of girls my age that are online dating have children. Again stemming from where I'm at with things in life, I don't want to be involved with someone who has kids. 3.) I don't want to date older because I do not want to be pressured in anyway into settling down right now. So all these reasons, at least for me personally have to do with my life situation. If things were more stable I would consider otherwise, but that's just not the case. Although I would gladly go five years younger before I'd go five years older. Ideally though It's 2 years in either direction. But that's just me. Since I fit into this demographic I feel I need to comment. I’m 27. I’ve been dating younger the past year. The youngest I’ll go is 21, but the oldest I’ll go is 29. Although I’ve since upped the minimum to about 23 because the 21 year old party girl has lost it’s fun. It doesn’t please me that you’d rather spend more time drinking than doing something else with me, but hey that’s how it is at that age.

But, back on subject, my reasoning of dating younger is as follows:

1.) I’m not at a financially stable point in my life. I went back to school and work part time. Someone in a similar place in life is better for me.

2.) What seems like a large percentage of girls my age that are online dating have children. Again stemming from where I’m at with things in life, I don’t want to be involved with someone who has kids.

3.) I don’t want to date older because I do not want to be pressured in anyway into settling down right now.

So all these reasons, at least for me personally have to do with my life situation. If things were more stable I would consider otherwise, but that’s just not the case. Although I would gladly go five years younger before I’d go five years older. Ideally though It’s 2 years in either direction. But that’s just me.

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By: bitBM http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/02/16/the-case-for-an-older-woman/comment-page-11/#comment-11727 bitBM Wed, 19 May 2010 02:57:58 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1357#comment-11727 Huh. What do you know? A study concluding what I already know. I'm going to get what I need before I become too old to be loved and valued by a man of any age. Huh. What do you know? A study concluding what I already know. I’m going to get what I need before I become too old to be loved and valued by a man of any age.

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By: D. http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/02/16/the-case-for-an-older-woman/comment-page-11/#comment-11698 D. Tue, 18 May 2010 13:29:55 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1357#comment-11698 When it comes to attractiveness and attitude, age is not more than a vague number. A 40 year old can look like 30 - or like 50. Am I right? Same age ... and yet their looks are twenty years apart. I am 42, and for about four weeks on okcupid. Since then, more than 300 men of all ages (19 to 65) messaged, winked or added me to their favorites. All of my dates asked to see me again. I can't complain, really ;) Ok now ... I am off to go rock climbing. When it comes to attractiveness and attitude, age is not more than a vague number. A 40 year old can look like 30 – or like 50. Am I right? Same age … and yet their looks are twenty years apart.

I am 42, and for about four weeks on okcupid. Since then, more than 300 men of all ages (19 to 65) messaged, winked or added me to their favorites. All of my dates asked to see me again. I can’t complain, really ;)

Ok now … I am off to go rock climbing.

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By: Judyjudygirl http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/02/16/the-case-for-an-older-woman/comment-page-11/#comment-11662 Judyjudygirl Tue, 18 May 2010 01:04:55 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1357#comment-11662 At 67 I am constantly receiving e-mails from men from 19-56 with the greatest number in their 40's. I do not understand this since I very clearly state in my profile that I am not interested in men under 60. I am simply not interested in men my children's age. So where are the men my own age? Out looking for 40 yo's? At 67 I am constantly receiving e-mails from men from 19-56 with the greatest number in their 40’s. I do not understand this since I very clearly state in my profile that I am not interested in men under 60. I am simply not interested in men my children’s age. So where are the men my own age? Out looking for 40 yo’s?

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By: Daniel http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/02/16/the-case-for-an-older-woman/comment-page-11/#comment-11576 Daniel Sun, 16 May 2010 19:11:41 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1357#comment-11576 I'm messaging older women all the time (ages 26-38 as suggested above) but keep getting told “sorry you’re too young”. So maybe you should make a case for the younger guy. lol I’m messaging older women all the time (ages 26-38 as suggested above) but keep getting told “sorry you’re too young”. So maybe you should make a case for the younger guy. lol

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By: stwom4ever http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/02/16/the-case-for-an-older-woman/comment-page-11/#comment-11565 stwom4ever Sun, 16 May 2010 16:59:43 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1357#comment-11565 Having dated men who are on average 8 years younger than me in my last 4 relationships- it is very interesting to re-enter the dating pool and have the following contact me: 22-26 year olds who are more mature than some of the guys over 40! Having guys 61-66 contact me (I am 46). After dating younger men and... as I am childless, I am happy to be with people who have no kids or grown kids, but I don't see myself realistically entertaining a 20 yr age difference in either direction NOT HAVING guys contact me who are 43-47! It seems these are the men who waited to get in the game and now want a relationship and children which I am not really prepared to do at 46 without a surrogate! BUT, most of them are the perfect match for me! Being contacted by guys 38-41 who "dig me" and think I am "cool" but think I may be too old at 46! My last relationship lasted 13+ yrs and he turned 40 this yr. No, he did not want kids and that was not the problem. What's a girl/woman to do? Having dated men who are on average 8 years younger than me in my last 4 relationships- it is very interesting to re-enter the dating pool and have the following contact me:

22-26 year olds who are more mature than some of the guys over 40!

Having guys 61-66 contact me (I am 46). After dating younger men and… as I am childless, I am happy to be with people who have no kids or grown kids, but I don’t see myself realistically entertaining a 20 yr age difference in either direction

NOT HAVING guys contact me who are 43-47! It seems these are the men who waited to get in the game and now want a relationship and children which I am not really prepared to do at 46 without a surrogate! BUT, most of them are the perfect match for me!

Being contacted by guys 38-41 who “dig me” and think I am “cool” but think I may be too old at 46! My last relationship lasted 13+ yrs and he turned 40 this yr. No, he did not want kids and that was not the problem.

What’s a girl/woman to do?

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By: JAL http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/02/16/the-case-for-an-older-woman/comment-page-11/#comment-11483 JAL Sat, 15 May 2010 18:30:42 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1357#comment-11483 Did I mention that it's been a long while since I've seen a blog this evil? My keyboard is refusing that I even type to it. Did I mention that it’s been a long while since I’ve seen a blog this evil? My keyboard is refusing that I even type to it.

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By: Praved http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/02/16/the-case-for-an-older-woman/comment-page-11/#comment-11437 Praved Sat, 15 May 2010 08:29:41 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1357#comment-11437 "In fact, unrealistic male expectations inspired this article, so we want to do everything we can to correct for them." You're going to correct nature? Something will leak out around the edged as you try to push the lid down. Women seem to have the most desire pleasure in their first half of life. Men get it increasingly in their first half and into their second. It was pretty shitty to have to be a younger male if you were in a large group of older teens and you wanted to catch the eye of the prettier girls. You had no chance. And the perception of elapsed time as a teenage boy was much greater for a shorter amount of actual time. You've focused only on adulthood. Life is a continuum and 18 is a cutoff that is specific but arbitrary. So your data and rhetoric are constrained by that. It all evens out when you broaden your spectrum to all of life I think. Otherwise, it would have caused pressure in society and our genes to adapt. We accept it. I doubt we'll evolve from it. Maybe though, now that there is no real impetus to have babies real quick before all the men rush off and get killed as teenagers in wars. Would take a loong time. We're designed such that women optimally procreate young and men splatter it wherever they're allowed to to their greatest satisfaction. Men love feminine beauty and are attracted to it. In any of its ways and forms. I am anyway. “In fact, unrealistic male expectations inspired this article, so we want to do everything we can to correct for them.”

You’re going to correct nature? Something will leak out around the edged as you try to push the lid down.

Women seem to have the most desire pleasure in their first half of life. Men get it increasingly in their first half and into their second. It was pretty shitty to have to be a younger male if you were in a large group of older teens and you wanted to catch the eye of the prettier girls. You had no chance. And the perception of elapsed time as a teenage boy was much greater for a shorter amount of actual time.

You’ve focused only on adulthood. Life is a continuum and 18 is a cutoff that is specific but arbitrary. So your data and rhetoric are constrained by that. It all evens out when you broaden your spectrum to all of life I think. Otherwise, it would have caused pressure in society and our genes to adapt. We accept it.

I doubt we’ll evolve from it. Maybe though, now that there is no real impetus to have babies real quick before all the men rush off and get killed as teenagers in wars. Would take a loong time.

We’re designed such that women optimally procreate young and men splatter it wherever they’re allowed to to their greatest satisfaction. Men love feminine beauty and are attracted to it. In any of its ways and forms. I am anyway.

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By: JAl http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/02/16/the-case-for-an-older-woman/comment-page-11/#comment-11424 JAl Sat, 15 May 2010 04:31:30 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1357#comment-11424 "Should" was a word used in this blog. Younger guys "should" be looking at older ladies?That, will never happen, even as there's currently 1 in 4 girls with an STD There's eons worth of great reasons to avoid older mates. This blog is clearly the work of the devil. Why is there an overwhelming desire to entirely change every possible thing about masculinity by females? Even when great points are made, they still want to try to undermine them just for the sake of trying their hand at an evil. WE ARE MEN! WE WILL DECIDE HOW MEN BE! The End “Should” was a word used in this blog. Younger guys “should” be looking at older ladies?That, will never happen, even as there’s currently 1 in 4 girls with an STD There’s eons worth of great reasons to avoid older mates. This blog is clearly the work of the devil. Why is there an overwhelming desire to entirely change every possible thing about masculinity by females? Even when great points are made, they still want to try to undermine them just for the sake of trying their hand at an evil. WE ARE MEN! WE WILL DECIDE HOW MEN BE! The End

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By: Susan http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/02/16/the-case-for-an-older-woman/comment-page-11/#comment-11176 Susan Wed, 12 May 2010 11:06:23 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1357#comment-11176 I had to check the date this was published because I was convinced there was a reason why so many younger guys keep expressing interest in me even though I'm sooo damn old. But then it occured to me that I don't spend as much time at okcupid that I do at the other sites so now I'm wondering if previous research has been done and that must be the reason why 2 of my last 3 partners/boyfriends were 12 years younger. But I'm in love with #3 who is 6 1/2 years older. Ya know.. I forgive you but.. we already know this information (heavily suspected) but we don't really want confirmation as you have most surely done. Damn... oh, but YEAH... I SEEM TO WANT SEX more and more as I get older even though I am less happy with my physical appearance. Thank you for the help but I am not interested in younger guys. I don't want to feel old and I don't want to feel threatened by the younger women but I do and there's no convincing myself that I'm just being paranoid.. thanks partly to your insight and mathemathic proficiency. ps..Exactly how old are you and do you have a profile? Now, I'm goin to look and discover that you have probably already answered or made obvious the answers to those questions and I'm goin to feel like a dumb girl... lol, when you get older you care less, lol... and it's easier to accept that we are all dumb girls more often than we fear. thank you and kudos to you Have a great week I had to check the date this was published because I was convinced there was a reason why so many younger guys keep expressing interest in me even though I’m sooo damn old. But then it occured to me that I don’t spend as much time at okcupid that I do at the other sites so now I’m wondering if previous research has been done and that must be the reason why 2 of my last 3 partners/boyfriends were 12 years younger. But I’m in love with #3 who is 6 1/2 years older.
Ya know.. I forgive you but.. we already know this information (heavily suspected) but we don’t really want confirmation as you have most surely done.

Damn… oh, but YEAH… I SEEM TO WANT SEX more and more as I get older even though I am less happy with my physical appearance.

Thank you for the help but I am not interested in younger guys. I don’t want to feel old and I don’t want to feel threatened by the younger women but I do and there’s no convincing myself that I’m just being paranoid.. thanks partly to your insight and mathemathic proficiency.

ps..Exactly how old are you and do you have a profile? Now, I’m goin to look and discover that you have probably already answered or made obvious the answers to those questions and I’m goin to feel like a dumb girl… lol, when you get older you care less, lol… and it’s easier to accept that we are all dumb girls more often than we fear.

thank you and kudos to you
Have a great week

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