Comments on: The Case For An Older Woman http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-case-for-an-older-woman/ The Official Blog of OkCupid.com Wed, 24 Sep 2014 13:49:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.2.7 By: Kevin http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-case-for-an-older-woman/comment-page-15/#comment-34690 Thu, 02 Jun 2011 08:15:45 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1357#comment-34690 Id love to quote jacob but his post is a bit long. So ill say after reviewing his comment i Totally Agree! This post would have better served the purpose of getting older women to look at us younger guys, im 22 and i tend to flirt with girls 24-28 on average but if i thought any of those hot 30+ year olds were interested id definitely expand my horizons.

Geminikevin7 (california)

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By: comefindme44 http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-case-for-an-older-woman/comment-page-15/#comment-34646 Sun, 29 May 2011 01:37:07 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1357#comment-34646 Older Ladies watch out for younger men!!!!!!!! Yes they can turn your head make you feel wonderful, but most of them are only after your money. That’s what happened to me. A scam he went to Africa, but while there needed money to get his travel papers back. Was there to help the children who needed medial help and supposedly didn’t have all the money to pay for needed surgeries and asked me to send him the money that he needed in 4 days so he could pay for it and get his papers back, and fly home to me. Sure opened my eyes wide. Like my daughter said when I told her about it ” Mom good thing you weren’t born under a rock ” So Ladies Beware. By the way I DID NOT SEND HIM MONEY.

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By: James http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-case-for-an-older-woman/comment-page-15/#comment-34641 Sat, 28 May 2011 09:51:18 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1357#comment-34641 The article is really interesting but here’s my summary (for the guys out there who are sick of being told not to be normal i.e. find a nice pretty girl and fall in love rather than have kinky sex with disease ridden cougars) if you can’t read between the lines:

A
1) Men prefer younger girls (with good reason – they are better looking and will remain so for longer, are less likely to have been around, have longer to go before kids) even more so than they pretend to (for fear of being labelled as creepy by feminists).
2) Girls prefer older guys (more cash – why else?) especially when they are most desirable (not mentioned in article but you can see in the graph).

B
1) Older single women like casual sex, threesomes and tying you down. Oh, but not just with you but all the other guys they’re dating. Maybe that’s because they’re older and more adventurous or maybe they’re single because they’re into that rather than relationships…
2) At least they test themselves for diseases more – because they need to.

C
No one believes that older women are as attractive except deluded older women and hen-pecked husbands. You should point out that the graphs are for ratings of photographs with age taken into account.

PS I don’t hate single older women I hate the lies that people are told that lead to single older women.

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By: Thandie http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-case-for-an-older-woman/comment-page-15/#comment-34573 Wed, 25 May 2011 07:54:30 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1357#comment-34573 Men age and die faster than woman. Hence women have more energy at same or similar ages.
My ex was 9 years younger than me.
Most men I have met and continue meeting prefer older woman in their late 30’s and forties.
My mom is 7 years older than my dad. My sister engaged to someone 6 years her junior.
My brother both times married older than him.

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By: EelKat http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-case-for-an-older-woman/comment-page-15/#comment-34547 Tue, 24 May 2011 03:24:12 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1357#comment-34547 A few weeks ago I was in the store, buying a bag of chips. The cashier says to me: “Isn’t it a school day? Where’s your mother? Why aren’t you in school?” I look at her thinking, you got to be kidding me! I tell her my age, she accuses me of lying and says she can’t sell anything to minors on a school day! She demands to see my idea. I give it to her and she calls it fake and calls the manager.

The manager looks at me and looks at her and than says: “She’s been shopping here since the 1970s, I think she’s older than me.”

The girl looks at my birthdate on my ID and says: “But…but…look at her! She looks like she’s 14! You’re telling me she’s 20 years older than me? How is that possible?”

I tell her: I have never drank, smoked, done drugs, or worn make up. I am homeless, so I’m outdoors all the time getting lots of fresh air and exercise, and having no place to take a bath, I bath in the ocean, using the beach sand as an exfoliating mineral rub, as I have no soap. That’s the secret to my “eternal youth”.

I am never short of men 10, 15, 20 years younger than me, talking to me BECAUSE THEY THINK I’m a teenager – they shy away after asking my age.

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By: VioletBlue http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-case-for-an-older-woman/comment-page-15/#comment-34454 Wed, 18 May 2011 02:57:52 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1357#comment-34454 I wouldn’t say I look better now than i did when I was in my early 20’s, but at 50 I look great for my age, and have no problem getting dates with younger men. Most are in their early 40’s to maybe 1 or 2 years older.. I don’t really like to date older men, we don’t have the same interests, lol. I have more energy than women 10 years younger and the older guys just can’t keep up!

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By: Trotterhorse http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-case-for-an-older-woman/comment-page-15/#comment-34307 Tue, 10 May 2011 10:45:49 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1357#comment-34307 I am now 56 years old, but in my youth I was always attracted to women older than myself. It was the best experience of my life. It however ruined my marriage, I could not relate to women my age. Our interest did not coincide with each other!

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By: loggerlover4u http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-case-for-an-older-woman/comment-page-15/#comment-34130 Sun, 01 May 2011 11:28:18 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1357#comment-34130 There’ a big age gap here. I’m in my 80’s ( eighties) and am having a wonderful time with women in their 70’s. Our life styles are set, none of us want to live together constantly, but we all enjoy the richness of each others special interests – then return to our own activities. , and by good diet, exercise, a consuming purpose in life, and a vacuum pump for intercourse after long lascivious caressing and oral sex, we agree that this is, right now- our golden age.
Polyamory is a wonderful state of being; no dependence, total support when needed, and this loggerlover4u is still one happy camper. Strange that your stats stop on the cusp of nirvana.

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By: ChinaWhite http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-case-for-an-older-woman/comment-page-15/#comment-34064 Fri, 29 Apr 2011 11:07:33 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1357#comment-34064 I love the range of insights and opinions people have left; quite the sample!

Here’s my two cents, or 2 jiao, as we say in Shanghai.

On being an “older woman”:

I’m 31 and I feel sexier and more attractive than I’ve felt since I was a teenager.
I’m stylish and sophisticated; I understand men much better than in the past (you men have your learning curves, too lol), so there’s less conflict in intimacy, I get what a man needs and am better at giving it.

I’m WAY hornier and more comfortable with myself sexually and I orgasm much easier than I’ve ever done before. I’m more relaxed and so I can just chill and have fun without stressing about every little detail of a relationship.

A dude that doesn’t see and want this just isn’t that interesting, at least to me. My current guy is two years older than me, admittedly he’s not exactly the male Adonis that I jump at most instinctively, but he’s really a gem of warmth and wisdom. I took a risk and told my instincts to take the back seat for once, and it’s been great and the sex is fantastic.

Women: I’m a white woman in my 30s living the last 4 years in Asia. If ever there was a place where old men chase young women they don’t actually respect, it’s here, and the young girls are happy to play if the dude’ll spend money on them. Career daters looking for a rich husband ASAP.

Hell, most of my guy friends spend half their time singing the praises of young, uneducated Chinese women (they steer clear of intelligent, sophisticated local women, interestingly), and the other half complaining about every minute detail of why they and their girlfriends don’t see eye to eye. These are NOT men you want to date, they don’t know how to be a friend AND a lover, and they don’t want an equal partner.

The young girls here put up with a lot of crap in relationships with these men. I wish them luck. The girls are far more interesting than their boyfriends. Forget such silly men.

Take pride in yourself, find a young lover for no strings attached bedroom time, and invest yourself in something you love to do. Have fun and enjoy life, date (and reject) many men, and when one comes along that gets it and wants it, show him the time of his life and let him adore you. HE’S the keeper, not the ones who are looking for something else. Don’t waste your time: dating a guy that’s not crazy about you is the fastest way to short change yourself.

Good luck, daters!
D

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By: Jacob http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-case-for-an-older-woman/comment-page-15/#comment-34050 Thu, 28 Apr 2011 15:26:22 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1357#comment-34050 You’re overlooking something critical here. At the beginning of your article you state that 22-30-year-old males almost exclusively look for younger women. I’m a 22-year-old male. I would happily date older women, the thing is, as your data clearly shows, they have no interest in dating me. You do state in your article that men in there younger twenties are often overlooked, but your data shows that women, even in their thirties are just as age-biased in their dating as men are (only in the opposite direction).

You point out that a median 31 year old man will only date four years older than him, but nine years younger. According to your data a median 31 year old woman will only date three years younger and eight years older. I think it’s pretty clear that the women in your sample are just as age biased, if not more than the men. And they are also more picky about age in general.

If we look at the age group you mentioned above (22-30), the eldest age at which the median woman will date any male in his 20s, even up to the age 29, is only three years older. Only at age 30 do women up to 6 years older suddenly gain interest in males. In fact until ages 28 and 29, the eldest age at which the median woman will date a male is only TWO YEAR older.

Okay, now lets look at how much older males in that age range are willing to date.

A median 22-year-old male will date women up to age 26. A median 28-year-old male will date women up to age 34. Six years older. At age 30 a median male will date up to 35. Only finally at age 30 do we see men who are unwilling to date women at an age where the median woman would date them.

Really if you are looking at it, males in the 22-29-year-old age are significantly more willing to date older women than older women are willing to date them. In actuality your Zone of Greatness should be labeled the Zone of Totally Awesome Older Women Who Have Absolutely Zero interest in you.

Really what you should be putting out is an article on how 25-35-year-old women should be looking for younger men–not the other way around.

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