
The above comment is typical. As it is, men between 22 and 30—nearly two-thirds of the male dating pool—focus almost exclusively on women younger than themselves. I'll be investigating this phenomenon today, with gusto and charts. Ultimately, I'll argue that they would be well-served to expand their search upwards, to women in their thirties and forties.
Because it has been a successful way to introduce previous posts, I wanted to put real faces on this demographic before I delve into a bunch of numbers. Pictured below are some single users in their mid-thirties or early forties, taken from the first couple pages of my own local match search. Nothing I'll talk about today pertains necessarily to any one of them, but I wanted to put forward some people to go with the statistical discussion.
Dating Preferences & Age
It's no secret that dating changes radically as you get older. As you can see below, the number of online daters peaks at 24, drops sharply at around 30, and then gradually tapers off, as the remaining singletons either find mates or withdraw themselves from contention:

The bar chart here shows how the woman to man ratio changes over time. As you can see, it's basically flat. In a better world, this would imply that older people don't necessarily have a harder time finding decent mates than younger ones, as the composition of the dating pool holds relatively steady from age to age. Put another way: a 45 year-old woman shouldn't in theory have a harder time finding a date than a 20 year-old, because the female-to-male ratios at those ages are equal (roughly 11:9).
Of course, we all know that 45 year-olds do have a much harder time, because the male fixation on youth distorts the dating pool. Look at how men have set their age preferences on OkCupid:

As you can see, a man, as he gets older, searches for relatively younger and younger women. Meanwhile his upper acceptable limit hovers only a token amount above his own age. a man, as he gets older, searches for relatively younger and younger womenThe median 31 year-old guy, for example, sets his allowable match age range from 22 to 35—nine years younger, but only four years older, than himself. This skewed mindset worsens with age; the median 42 year-old will accept a woman up to fifteen years younger, but no more than three years older.
A man's bias toward younger women becomes even more evident when we overlay his stated preferences with his actual messaging habits.
This next graph is what's called a heat map. It shows messaging concentrations by age; for each vertical age bracket, the greenest areas have the most messages, the reddest have the fewest, and the yellow have the average.

As you can see, men tend to focus on the youngest women in their already skewed preference pool, and, what's more, they spend athe median 30 year-old man spends as much time messaging teenage girls as he does women his own age significant amount of energy pursuing women even younger than their stated minimum. No matter what he's telling himself on his setting page, a 30 year-old man spends as much time messaging 18 and 19 year-olds as he does women his own age. On the other hand, women only a few years older are largely neglected.
So you can see how differently women think about dating and age, here are the corresponding charts for them:

Except in their early to mid-twenties, when they apparently want nothing to do with younger guys (i.e. guys who are still in school?), women show an admirable openness to both reasonably younger and reasonably older men. Notice also how a woman's actual messaging activity, shown in the heat map below, is roughly centered on her own age (as illustrated by the dotted "age parity" line).

This second chart also contains something very peculiar that we didn't see at all in men. Notice the vertical stripes at ages 20 and 29. These color discontinuities indicate dramatic changes in a woman's dating mentality: when a women turns 20 she decides it's okay to message significantly older men (i.e. the upper reaches of the chart suddenly become less red). At 29, a woman becomes even more open to older men and, in addition, stops writing the youngest ones. The typical 28 year-old women sends a small but significant number of messages to men too young to drink. The typical 29 year-old sends practically none.
In any event, here's what happens when we synthesize all the above data. By tallying the number of people interested in each age group and gender, we can get a dynamic picture of the dating pools. I've made a little javascript widget to illustrate what's going on.
a by-age distribution of men who would date an 18 year-old woman


I was tempted to title this The Tides Of Longing. Move the slider to the right, toward middle age, and you can watch the pool of dating possibilities gather, crest, then drain away. Metaphors aside, we can evaluate the potential matches for a given age/gender by summing the area under the curve (AP Calculus, ftw!) I made these calculations in the chart below, and we can see that women have more pursuers than men until age 26, but thereafter a man can expect many more potential dates than a woman of the same age. At the graph's outer edge, at age 48, men are nearly twice as sought-after as women. Here's the data:

A woman's desirability peaks at 21, which, ironically enough is the age that men just begin their "prime," i.e. become more desirable than average. Following that dotted line out, statistically speaking, a woman's desirability
peaks at 21you can see that a woman of 31 is already "past her prime," while a man doesn't become so until 36. As we mentioned above, after age 26, a man has more potential matches than his female counterparts, which is a drastic reversal of the proportion in young adulthood, when women are much more sought-after. Because men's dating preferences skew so young, and women's are age-equitable, men peak later, and have a longer plateau of desirability, than women.
So that's the lay of the land, and now I'd like to say why I think it could be different. In the next three sections of this post, I will show that an older woman's attitudes, both about sex and life, are just as good if not better than her younger counterparts', and hopefully I'll convince more guys to venture north of their current age-limits:

Sex
Articles touting a woman's mid-thirties "sexual peak" have stalked the pages of Cosmo since time immemorial, but these articles typically cite clinical testosterone/estrogen/progesterone studies and attempt to make the leap to "sexual peak" from there—if they bother to cite any data at all. I, on the other hand, can make my claim by looking at a woman's stated preferences:



This is a nationwide "age progression" of American women, a normalized heat map similar to the ones you saw above, but with an added geographical component. By moving the slider you can watch how attitudes become more sex-positive as the population gets older.
This older-women-are-more-sexual pattern repeats across almost every proposition. Here are a few more data sets just as sparklines (computed, like the map above, for our sample set of 100,000 women). Again, these are just a handful of examples; whether we ask about bondage or kissing, women are the most sexual in their thirties.
Researching this post, I also came upon an interesting complementary pair of graphs illustrating sexual dominance preferences. Younger men want to be dominated. Older women are generally interested in doing just that.

In addition their lack of physical inhibitions, older women have much healthier attitudes in two other areas of sexual concern: STD testing and contraception.






Attitude
There are two operative stereotypes of older single women: the sad-sack (à la Bridget Jones) and the "cougar" (à la Samantha from Sex In The City) and both, like all stereotypes, are reductionist and stupid and I've tried to avoid them. I hesitated beginning my case for older women with something about their sexuality, like I did in Exhibit A, because that territory borders right on cougar country. But the evidence there was too compelling to ignore.
On the other hand, I found no basis whatsoever for Ms. Zellweger's version of the thirty-something single woman. The data indicate that they are in fact way better adjusted than their younger counterparts. For example:


It might be hard to eyeball, because the bottom graph isn't steeply sloped, but women in their thirties are 4.0% more likely to be happy than their younger counterparts. As anyone who's been in a relationship with someone who lacks them can attest, self-sufficiency and confidence are awesome qualities in a match.
The graph below shows a similar trend, until a poignant drop at the end.

Either something very sad happens to a woman at 40, or something incredibly awesome happens at 39. Hard to tell. And I also want to say, guys, that just because a woman is older, she's not necessarily on the fast-track to marriage:

Looks
The final thing I want to address is looks, because I think that is guys' most fundamental worry about dating someone older. There's no doubt that younger people are are more physically attractive—indeed in many ways beauty and youth are inextricable. That's why most of the models you see in magazines are teenagers, and turn-back-the-clock surgeries like face-lifts are so popular. There's no getting around this fact, and I don't want to hide it:

But, combing through the data, I intuitively felt like this graph didn't tell the whole story. So I dug deeper, and found something interesting. If you separate out the absolute best-looking women, almost all of whom are very young, and also remove the people you won't realistically want to date (the worst-looking women), you find that everyone else's attractiveness doesn't change much with age:

In other words, given that nobody is drop-dead gorgeous or drop-dead hideous, your average 25 year-old is roughly as good-looking as your average 35 year-old. for the vast majority of men, dating the absolute hottest girls isn't realisticYes, throwing out the prettiest of the pretty young things is a clumsy handicap to put on an age-by-age comparison. But at the same time, for the vast majority of men, the best-looking women are simply out of reach, so it's actually accurate to exclude them as possibilities. In fact, unrealistic male expectations inspired this article, so we want to do everything we can to correct for them.
Many of you are probably scoffing at the idea that many 35 year-olds are as attractive as many 25 year-olds, but there are social factors at work that you might not consider as you go through life making judgments. Most importantly: nationwide, thirtysomethings are much more likely to be married and therefore much more likely to have stopped optimizing their attractiveness. So the typical 35 year-old woman you see out in the world isn't representative of the single 35 year-olds who are still dating and looking good.
Anyhow, that just about concludes my case. Ultimately, you be the judge. Here are single women in their mid-twenties and women in their mid-thirties, all in the 70th percentile of attractiveness, side by side. The older women are on the left, in case you can't tell.






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I mostly stopped reading halfway through the post because I already know older woman have it going on. I didn’t think they were as open to dating younger men as your data suggests though. Well, I’ll definitely be raising the age limit on my match settings.
Another awesome analysis of data. I’m off to increase my match age.
Thanks for showing a peak in the enjoyment of giving oral sex among the 32-year-olds in Bismarck, North Dakota. There are just a few of them, and I think I can get cheap plane tickets…
Agreed whole-heartedly – I’m pretty positive a woman over 32 doesn’t have any damn interest in a 26 year old – your own graph proves that.
I agree wholeheartedly! I’m now engaged to the cougar I met on OKCupid!
Your data doesn’t necessarily jive with the argument that guys should be more willing to date older women. Playing with “The Shape Of The Dating Pool”, a mid-20s guy has very few >30 year old women who are interested in dating them. It’s a two-way street here, sure, guys should be willing to date older women, but so then, should older women be willing to date younger guys. If all of a sudden, younger guys were all willing to date older women, there would be a glut on the market of younger men looking for older women, a situation that would likely benefit the older women looking for younger men, but wouldn’t necessarily work in guys’ favor overall.
This might just encourage me to dip my toe into the online dating pool again. As a 31 year old woman, a lot of the time I get messages from much older men who I’m not interested in. However, I’ve been really impressed with the younger guys who have messaged me in the past. Usually they’re pretty confident and successful, which I think is one reason why they have the balls to step to an older woman. For example, last year I met two guys on OkCupid, one was 28 and the other was 25. I liked both at first, but the 25 year old was miles ahead of the 28 year old in terms of maturity, and despite my initial hesitations about his age, I liked the 25 year old much more. He had his shit together more than some 35 year old guys I’ve dated. Neither of them worked out, but it helped me see that maturity matters way more than age. Besides, me at 31 is way hotter, smarter, and more fun to be around than me at any point in my 20s.
I think this post makes some good points it also is lacking a few areas.
1. Sex is important but is seems the biggest point of this article is the reason to date older women is because they will sleep witj you and more specifically give you oral sex. Not that there is anything wrong with that but making it the main focus devalues these women a bit.
2. The biggest thing not mentioned here is kids. Dating “older” women (and when did 30s become old?, this is itself is insulting, Older women are now 30 yearolds, which reinforces sexism don’t you think?) means the length of time before she wants to have kids is shorter. As some who is not ready for kids in the next 5 years dating some who might could lead to some problems.
This being said I start to date a older woman (ok 2 1/2 years is hardly pushing boundaries) she is great, though it didn’t work out. They do rock.
It’s not that the 35 year old is so much less attractive than the 25 year old, it’s that she will remain so for 10 years fewer. If you’re seeking a mate with an eye toward the future, this is an important consideration.
All this data and Staff Robot still insists on matching me up with women that love travel, booze and god when what I want is someone to settle down with and have a quiet, booze free life w/o god screwing stuff up.
All this proves is that older women try to make up for lost time and/or relive memories of boning the attractive guys from early in their adulthood which is THE SAME THING THAT MEN TRY TO DO BY DATING YOUNGER WOMEN. Of course, men are actually able to get what they want since women are willing to date drastically older when they’re younger, whereas guys won’t.
Honestly, do you think any of these 32 year olds messaging 24 year olds are choosing some random, average guy to send out a mailing to? Of course not. It’s the really attractive guys getting the invitation to some cougar love.
The dating problem really stems with younger women dating older men. They screw up the curve and leave a bunch of younger guys desperate and lonely (and as some statistics will tell you, VERY suicidal). If younger girls would date guys their own age, everything probably would even out. I sure wouldn’t want to date an 18 year old when I’m 40, but I most definitely would if I never got to try dating an 18 year old when I was younger.
Trust me, I have nothing against dating older women. It just seems the majority of women won’t so much as respond to a message if you’re even a year younger. =/
One reason ‘older’ men would date ‘younger’ women (okay, MY reason, when it was an issue) was that younger women are more willing and able to have kids. If your serious about a family, there is no escaping this fact. Another reason (okay, MY reason) was not wanting someone who has spent 20 years abusing themselves with, for example, alcohol and other ‘drugs’.
Of course, is easy to be young and attractive, but staying acttractive as you age is a real challenge that few people meet.
The definitions of ‘older’ and ‘younger are relative. I married someone 11 years younger than I am, yet she was in her late 20’s when we met. I had some 20 something aquantainces rib me about it, but my wife still had 10 years on them at the time, so why she may have been ‘younger’ to me, she was ‘older’ to them.
But what really colors your data is where it comes from. Look how you market your site! With online dating sites to fill every niche, wouldn’t the people who were looking for or didn’t care about age difference go to a site that caters to this? What type of conclusions can you really draw that apply to society as a whole?
I think your research neglects to take into account the likelihood that more and more women are going to have children as they get older, which lowers their attractiveness for a lot of men.
Very interesting reading. I’ve been lying about my age for ages on here as I’ve always thought the profile one here was quite young. On one occasion where I’ve actually changed my age to my real age when a few guys were messaging me, one guy, who was in his mid-30s actually told me that he couldn’t believe that he fancied a 40 year old and instantly stopped all contact – which was actually really funny as he wasn’t the most attractive of guys! Anyway, now my actual age is up there I’ll probably get loads of messages from really old guys, but it will be interesting to see how much your findings have influenced the male okc population. I’ll let you know.
this is a nice post, especially the first half, with the vast discrepancies between the sexes, and i feel that it is important for men to realize the benefits of dating older women (or even women their own age), but did you really have to prove your points by making the younger population look bad? as a twenty year old who feels mature and giving beyond her years, that felt disappointing of you guys…
Us “older” guys already know “older” women are awesome! Like this is some big secret! More time on Earth = more experience = more maturity = more confidence = knowing what you want and not being afraid to go get it! What could be more attractive in a woman than that?
Brilliant! Man match.com sucks.
2nd-ing pedant’s comment. All you proved is that a pretty 25 year old will be a pretty 35 year old in ten years. A pretty 35 year old will be a 45 year old post-menopausal hagfish in ten years.
I would STILL like to see how OKC determines attractiveness. You CAN’T base it on star ratings. I for one will happily one-star a professional model whose match answers are repellant.
The data mining is the reason I keep coming back to this site – amazing stuff.
Well, that and the good-looking weirdos. They’re pretty amazing too.
How does this correlate with match-%? I am 31 years old and a typical search for me, without age limits, gives mostly women between 20 and 30, and only occasionally women older than 33.
Of course… your own data shows women are mostly only interested in men around their age or older. So do you really agree with your conclusions?
I love this blog, and this is a great post, but how about some statistical confidence intervals on those percentages? I know your sample size is huge, but some basic statistical checks on the data would still be useful.
Oh great, now women over 25 are going tobe swamped with even more emails from horny idiots, and all to tell us things that anyone with a brain in their head will already know. Thanks a bunch.
But anyway. Interesting reading, especially that bit about contracepting being ‘immoral’. There are that many nutters on okcupid? Eesh. Cheers for the write-up.
Thanks for posting this. I do have to say, Casper’s comment made me lol irl.
There is definitely nothing wrong with dating an older woman. But for anyone in a relationship that’s outside of mainstream, watch out for sharp power imbalances. There are few road maps to guide you in our society.
I suspect younger women with older men are educated by culture on how to deal with power imbalances from age, experience and income; but until I found myself on the abused end of one, the experience had never occurred to me as a possibility. Men don’t ask themselves if they’re marrying someone who will hit them.
I’m 38 and totally open to a relationship with a younger man and I’ve gone out on several dates with men 7-10 years younger than me who messaged me on this site. However, all of them saw me as some kind of sexual experiment, a cougar, or wanted to pigeon hole me into a booty call arrangement. Every single one of them claimed to have commitment issues and specifically thought that because I am older, independent, and ok with being unmarried and not having children, they could just come and go as they please, getting laid without consequence or effort without any regard to my feelings. Whether you are 28 or 38, being treated that way by anyone is going to make you feel devalued and disrespected.
I have no qualms about going out with another younger man, but I hope that if any of them read this comment, they understand that just because we’re older and might have more self-confidence and less sexual inhibitions than our younger counterparts, we still want to be respected, treated kindly, and appreciated, whether we’re in a casual or serious relationship.
I realised when reading a blog entry recently that the mid-thirties guy who was bemoaning his singledom was referring to “finding a girl”. A *girl*? Really? Shouldn’t he be looking at *women*?
But he always was a bit of a fantasist, so I will not be surprised if him holding out for the sassy, adoring 23 year old with the hawt figure leads to him never, ever partnering up again.
He won’t look at the partners of friends his age and notice that they are awesome despite not being 23. He won’t notice that the mothers of his friends children (he yearns to have children) may be a bit plumper, but know just how to shake what the years have given them. He won’t realise that the “older” (but still younger then he is) woman who would like to date him is on a par with the women in his peer group, he will only see that she is not 23 and hawt.
Looking for a “girl” when you are an older man? That’s what sad and creepy looks like. And that hawt 23 year old he finds himself salivating over in the park or cafe? That’s what dying alone looks like.
This is great! I thought it was common knowledge that us 30+ chicks were the best!
Can you say “real woman, with lower drama??” Who wouldn’t want that?
Yes,since the star ratings stopped weighing looks and personality separately(and I therefore stopped giving star ratings at all) they can’t be treated as a proxy for looks.
As others have said,if a man is looking for a woman to have children with,she has to be of a certain age range no matter how old he is,and if he wants his children to be her only children the odds of that likewise favor his seeking younger women.That said,my excluding the 18-22-year-olds seems no loss!
oh, and to all the guys out there complaining that “older” women don’t go for younger guys, I particularly like em young! Just so you know
I am 27, and my girl just turned 30. And she is so much more awesome than all these young children. Go statistics! And your “likes sex” statistics fit my anecdotal evidence rather well, as a (younger) female friend of mine recently explained to me that she usually does not enjoy sex.
Nick, I’m sorry about what happened to you. However, the rates of domestic violence against men are remarkably low compared to those against women. Not that violence against men isn’t a problem, but while only 3% of men will experience domestic violence against them this year, 20% of women will as well. Additionally, 1 out of 3 women will experience domestic violence within her lifetime. Not to trivialize your experience, but most men have nothing to worry about. Women do.
Also, if people in “power imbalanced” relationships should watch out, should I only date people who make as much money as I do? Should I only date people of my race and religion too? Because your faulty logic very much applies to those situations as well.
This is great, and there’s no doubt that women in their 30’s are awesome. But the problem is with the female age preference graph: older women don’t want to date younger guys. This really doesn’t seem so much like an argument for dating older women, but an argument for guys in their 30’s to date women their own age, rather than trying to date younger women.
I love these posts. Keep ‘em coming!
Thogar alludes to a weakness inherent in mapping data–in the US, the population is unevenly geographically distributed. How about 3D map histograms to make the point that the great plains/mountain splotches are not nearly as interesting/important as the cramped coasts?
S.G., he’s just saying to be careful. Nick started off with “There is definitely nothing wrong with dating an older woman.”, so I don’t know where you are getting the idea that “X shouldn’t date Y” from. It’s just that everyone should be careful in any relationship, which also happens to include the ones you mentioned.
Not to trivialize women’s experience, but technically speaking, if 1 out of 3 women experience domestic violence within their lifetime, that means 2 out of 3 women don’t. All women should be careful not to get into an abusive relationship, and should get out of ones they find themselves in, but by this logic, most women have nothing to worry about either.
Now I’m NOT by any means trying to justify abuse against women, nor am I saying that women don’t have to be more careful than men.
Finally, by saying “most men don’t have anything to worry about” in this dismissive tone, how are you not trivializing Nick’s experience?
OMG Courtney – I think you’ve had the exact same experience as I have with these younger guys, I totally agree with you! The weird thing is that I met a 40 yr old on another site and after initially wining and dining me he has fallen into the exact same pattern. Why do younger guys think that older women have no feelings or guys in general when you get past a certain age? I expect they do, but they just don’t care. Be interesting to read the guy perspective on this.
So, so far since putting my actual age – 41, had a 50yr old IM me and a 20 yr old – whom judging by his profile may be illiterate.
Okc is great for its research and social comment I must say.
S.G., on another note? where do you get your stats? They don’t line up with the data I’ve observed.
Well, it may be an argument for younger guys to date more women older than them. There’s a lot for them to learn, not the least of which is what it’s like to be with a woman who actually GETS that not every person you sleep with is the person you’re going to marry.
But it seems like a stronger argument to me for older men to stop being such total douchbags and trying to unrealistically relive their youth by fracking 20-21 year olds.
Also, there are dudes out there who target (and I use the word judiciously) younger women for dating specifically because they are less experienced and savvy than older women. In a word, easier to take advantage of. Those guys should try being less douchey too, perhaps by having sex with someone they actually respect as a person, and the world would be a better place.
Thank you Chris, for another savvy, successful attempt at reducing stereotypical shite and questioning reality. You do a good job of keeping guys reading with referring to sexual practices!
Though I knew there are intrepid, or “hot” guys 10-20 years younger than me who have enough base testosterone to match my energy level, they can be quickly boring, due to lack of intrapersonal insight capacity. The rare female who has matured into a woman (so much more than a girl) needs a rare man (not a boy)… usually he is her peer: not tons younger, not a lot older. Plus, I’ve realized the turnoff of knowing I coulda been a dude’s diaper-changing, nose-wiping babysitter. :0
There was a missing factor to representations of age in your article though: lifestyle. A person who works out daily from the inside out (martial arts, meditative yoga, tai chi, chi gong) is just going to just look a heckuva more radiant, vital, good-looking. My former Tai Chi teacher was a really radiant/handsome dude in his 70s, and he had it going on in the love department – was nowhere near what is considered the ‘typical’ health problems of elder people in our society.
Super-young beauty (and handsomeness for that matter) often doesn’t withstand time well if you eat crap, are not processing mental/emotional stress, or are only into externally-focused exercises. The healthier the person is from the inside out, especially if they work on themselves in their 20s and 30s, the more they exude a timeless, very attractive, glow.
Yes, the percentage of radiantly alive, decent-looking people is smaller the older they are, but those who have it, have it. Read Taoist sexual practices writer Mantak Chia for more about that. This applies to women REGARDLESS of children – due to lifestyle/self-care factors, some of ‘em fall apart and age rapidly, others simply do not. In fact, some women are actually healthier in their forties and fifties than gals half their age.
That said, there seem to be, sadly plenty of dudes of MOST ages who look dull-eyed, unduly weathered/jaded, or are all bloated and beached… and I think that deserves a whole other article examining general lifestyle & thinking habits of dudes, of people….
I strongly agree that it’s a tragedy that some guys are unwilling to date women that are older than them. I’m currently in an open relationship with a 19 year old and a 32 year old (I am 23). I was ASTOUNDED by how easy and fun it was to be with someone almost ten years older than myself. There is virtually no aspect in which she is less desirable than the 19 year old. It has definitely opened my eyes to a whole new dimension when it comes to dating.
Hey what a great post
I try to explain this to my guy friends all the time!
Women in their 30s can be incredibly awesome chicks to date.
I don’t mind dating guys that are in the mid 30s but that’s where I have to sort of put a line.
I think so long as the person is compatiable with you and your behavior it’s all good!
Some younger people prefer to date more experienced people, or calmer ones, or ones that are much more established in life.
Its not about SEX. It’s about PERSONALITY and ENERGY. OLDER WOMEN = BITTER AND CYNICAL. YOUNG WOMEN = positivity and optimism……i tired dating older women for years, they are the biggest headache and are high maintenance…..??
IF OLDER WOMEN ARE SO GREAT THEN WHY ARE THEY STILL SINGLE AFTER 30 SOMETHING YEARS???
If you can answer that question, that would be great!
Nice. So, when are we getting a case for younger girls dating older guys?
I love the OKC Blog. Off to go change my match settings.
Unfortunately for women all of the things they find attractive in men (confidence, maturity, accomplishments, stability, status, money) often come later in life and this why men “peak” later so this dating curve will always be skewed as long as women look for these qualities.
Also, whether they are willing to accept it or not, prime childbearing years for women are in their 20’s. It makes perfect sense for a man who is finally financially stable enough to settle down, to select a mate in her prime given that he is someone who has that option.
In regards to the other argument: Maybe an older woman’s inhibitions are fewer, but only because they have had many more partners. Sex gets better with practice and that goes for anyone, but most men would prefer to put in the hours themselves rather than marry a woman that got all the practice she needed for 10 lifetimes in college. Sad but true.
Why do all those graphs stop at 40, or 48? At 58, I’m feeling left out here…
And I’m still trying to figure out a sensible set of paramters here. Though my experience not too long ago with a 41-year-old woman was absolutely awesome!
Really? The only concentration of older women in the US who would have sex once a day, ideally, is in SW Oregon? Really? (there’s that extremely small part of central east-coast Maine too).