Gay Sex vs. Straight Sex

October 12th, 2010 by Christian Rudder

Gay issues have been in the news a lot lately, from the debate over same-sex marriage in Congress to a sickening rash of gay-bashing here in New York City. We see a lot of emotion out there, instead of information, and we wanted to provide some data-based context on sexuality so that people might make better choices about what they say, think, and do.

We run a massive dating site and therefore have unparalleled insight into sex and relationships. Here's what we've found, in numbers and charts.

First of all, gay sexuality is not a threat.

Gay people are not sexually interested in straights.

The subtext to a lot of homophobic thinking is the idea that gays will try to get straight people into bed at the first opportunity, or that gays are looking to "convert" straights. Freud called this concept schwanzangst; the U.S. Army calls it Don't Ask Don't Tell.

We combed through over 4 million match searches, and found virtually no evidence of it:

Match Search Returns
  • only 0.6% of gay men have ever searched for straight matches.
  • only 0.1% of lesbians have ever searched for straight matches.
  • only 0.13% of straight people's profile visitors are gay.
Furthermore
In our dataset, there was not a single gay user, male or female, who primarily searched for straight people.

Gay people aren't promiscuous.

Another common myth about gay people is that they sleep around, but the statistical reality is that gay people as a group aren't any more slutty than straights.

Median Reported Sex Partners
  • straight men: 6
  • gay men: 6
  • straight women: 6
  • gay women: 6

Here's how the distribution curves compare:

  • 45% of gay people have had 5 or fewer partners (vs. 44% for straights)
  • 98% of gay people have had 20 or fewer partners (vs. 99% for straights)

It turns out that a tiny fraction of gays have single-handedly two-handedly created the public image of gay sexual recklessness—in fact we found that just 2% of gay people have had 23% of the total reported gay sex, which is pretty crazy.

Straight people have gay sex, too.

Another inquiry that had unexpected results: we asked 252,900 straight people have you ever had a sexual encounter with someone of the same sex?

Almost a quarter answered 'yes'.

Click the airport-bathroom style icons to toggle the sex(es) displayed. Not unexpectedly, more women than men have had same-sex desires:

    straight women's same-sex desires:
  • 1 in 3 straight women has hooked up with another woman.
  • and of those who haven't, over 1 in 4 would like to.

As for straight men, a surprisingly high 13% have had a same-sex experience, and another 5% haven't yet but would like to.

Using the incredible power of computers, we were able to break down this question geographically. Here are straight people who either have had or would like to have a same-sex experience in the continental U.S. and lower Canada. You can see some sharp geographic divides.

Awesomely, the mountain West lives up to its Brokeback reputation, and Canada is orange nearly coast-to-coast. Even in the yellow and blue areas, you can see pockets of gay curiosity in interesting places: Austin, Madison, Asheville. Anywhere soy milk is served, basically.

Sidenote

Doing the research for this post, I came across many awful things our elected officials have said about gay people; here's a relatively calm example:

For starters, I found that a fun game to play with stuff like this is to replace the words "homosexual" and "gay" with "politician"—then you have something that's actually true.

I also spent a lot of time looking up match questions to debunk this particular claim. Down in the database I discovered one question with a surprising disparity, not between orientations, but between genders. Like Frodo to the Balrog, I wished I'd never unearthed it.

Come on, people. #facepalm.

Beyond Sex: Gay & Straight Personalities

More than just asking about specific desires and behaviors, our match questions are designed to tease out our users' underlying personalities. We've collected over 669 million answers from users so far. Below is a straight/gay comparison on 23 personality categories. You can mouse-over the ?s for each category to pop-up some examples of the many questions that affect it.

Two things: (1) The idea of the typical straight man as a kind bullying jock seems to be broadly true, though there is also a strong dork streak there, as well.

(2) Looking closely at the chart for females, we can improve upon Marx's famous dictum.

Religion is the opiate of the masses, so long as the masses are straight. However, amass a bunch of lesbians and you're going to need actual drugs.

In any event, a lot of these measured traits are reflected by the users' own words. Like we did before with race, we looked at the interests and tastes statistically unique to the different orientations, according to their personal profiles. We crunched millions of words of essay text and found the phrases most correlated to a particular sexual preference; again, these are the users' own words.

The Stuff Gay People Like

For both sexes, a lot of this stuff is way stereotypical. The size of the phrases indicate their relative popularity to the norm, and I actually had to shrink "The L Word" down to fit in our template. Meanwhile gay men's interests speak for themselves, evidently with an exaggerated lisp.

Compare those lists to their equally typical straight counterparts, below. It's like two zen koans, one by Meg Ryan, one by a viking:

The Stuff Straight People Like

As you can see, sexual orientation makes a huge difference in the words you choose to describe yourself. The small but enormous difference between lesbians' a girlfriend and straight women's my girlfriends says it all.

We extended this gay vs. straight analysis and for each orientation measured the frequencies of all one-, two-, and three-word phrases against the site-wide rates. Here's the breakdown:

There's no question that according to this analysis gay people are "different;" as you can see, gay interests and self-descriptions have little to do with the mainstream's. In fact what these numbers are saying is that the average gay person has only about 30% in common with the average American. But, ironically enough, when it comes to identity, it's hardly rare to be an outlier here. Adding an ethnic group to the plot helps put it in perspective:

Of course, as far as I know, no one's saying that Indians shouldn't get married or shouldn't be allowed to adopt children. The people of Louisiana even elected Bobby Jindal, an openly Indian man, as their governor!

We hope gay people can expect the same treatment very soon.

Adventurous

Would you consider trying food without being told what it is?

Would you consider permanently living in another country?

Would you ever get on a motorcycle?

Aggressive

Do you like to argue?

Have you ever yelled at the TV?

Do you go to great lengths to avoid conflict?

Ambitious

Would you be happy raising the kids while your spouse worked?

Which comes first for you, work or friends?

Do you want to be famous?

Artsy

Are you an aspiring actor/artist/writer or other creative type?

Do you like going to museums?

Do movies with subtitles bother you?

Compassionate

Is it your responsibility to help your fellow human beings?

Are you the type of person to tell a homeless person to get a job?

Do overweight people annoy you?

Competitive

Is it important to you to have the last word in an argument?

Do you like board games?

If someone wrongs you...do you eventually exact revenge?

Confident

Would you say you're smarter than average?

Are you okay with trying things that you're bad at?

Are you intimidated by a partner who is more sexually experienced than you?

Dorky

Do you think the International Space Station would be a cool place to get married?

Do you know what 'http' stands for?

Do you own any dice with more than six sides?

Generous

Do you give your best friend a birthday gift?

How much do you give each year to charity?

When you loan something small to a friend, do you really care if it gets returned?

Horny

How often do you think about sex?

How often do you masturbate?

Ideally, how many dates would you go on with someone before you have sex?

Into Drugs

What's your relationship to marijuana?

Do you think drug use with your partner can be a romantic activity?

Have you tried hard drugs, like, anything you need to 'cook'?

Into Sports

Do you play actual sports?

Do you enjoy exercise?

Do you have a favorite sports team, that you really like to follow?

Introverted

Does the idea of staying in and reading a book on a Friday night appeal to you?

Do you need "alone time" to re-charge after social situations?

At parties, do you go up and talk to people?

Kinky

Does group sex sound like a great idea?

Do you like sex toys?

Have you ever used nipple clamps?

Literary

Can you name an author from each continent (besides Antarctica)?

In high school, did you read books that weren't assigned in class?

Do spelling mistakes annoy you?

Optimistic

Do things generally turn out for the best?

Can just one person significantly change the world?

Do you think happiness is possible for all people?

Polite

Do you say something like 'bless you' when a stranger sneezes?

Do you hold the door for people?

Are you frequently under-dressed for special occasions?

Political

Have you ever marched in a protest?

Is it a person's civic duty to vote?

Do you know who your state's Senators are?

Romantic

Have you been around candlelight recently?

Do you like costume dramas?

Do you like to say 'I love you'?

Religious

Do you believe in the power of prayer?

Is there a God?

Do you believe in miracles? You sexy thing?

Spontaneous

Do you bring an umbrella if it looks like rain?

Do you often find yourself bored in relationships after a few months?

Have you ever had a one-night stand?

Trusting

Do you think most people give to charity?

Do you ever leave your drink unattended at a bar?

Do you think a straight man and a straight woman can truly just be friends?

Violent

Would you find it easier to kill for your beliefs or to die for them?

Have you ever thrown an object in anger during an argument?

Do you own a gun?

702 Responses to “Gay Sex vs. Straight Sex”

  1. Tim0123 says:

    @Henry

    Are you aware that bigotry can also apply to your view of one of the most important regions in YOUR country? As a gay man and native Southerner I find your comments offensive.
    Note that The South, in 2006, had a population of over 101 million people. As well, under the purchasing power parity method developed in 1998 for determining GDP, the thirteen State South again has the fourth largest economy on EARTH. This is hardly “third world” although it is, obviously, a region very tied to religion and conservative values in general. No need to hate on The South for being different.
    As for the OKCupid article/stats … fun stuff although perhaps a bit skewed. I’d like to see how the numbers change when ALL men (gay and straight) are included in the graph regarding the question about same sex activity and desires. Since I have always heard there are actually more gay men than women, I wonder if this tweaking would make the graph appear somewhat more like the female graph (with regard to percentages of same-sex curiosity/experience.)

  2. ThisGuy says:

    I’m not homophobic, but I have been hit on by gay guys. I’m sure this is a different story on OkCupid, where a gay guy can clearly see if somebody is gay or straight. But, in real life, not the case. And I’m sure many guys get hit on by gay guys all the time. I wouldn’t be surprised if this is a big part of the reason for homophobia.

  3. Tim0123 says:

    @Henry
    No need to hate on the South. Under the purchasing power parity method developed in 1998 for determining GDP, the thirteen State South has the fourth largest economy on earth. There are 101 million inhabitants! Doesn’t south “Third World” to me.
    As a gay man and native Southerner I found your comments offensive. There’s more than one way to skin a cat and more than one way to be a bigot.
    OKCupid article and presentation was fascinating, interesting, intriguing. Let’s see some more of this kind of thing :)

  4. Patrick says:

    Hello! My roommate and I desperately want to be friends with whoever collated this data. This is seriously the best thing we’ve read in weeks. When we clicked on the “stuff lesbians like” section and the giant THE L WORD popped up my roommate actually collapsed. This rules. Please be our friends.

  5. Ranee says:

    I agree with Tim. OkCupid, I <3 you for posting this!

  6. Josh says:

    This explains why I have trouble finding people of either sex who match well…something I’ve long suspected: I’m generally closer to lesbian archetypal characteristics than I am gay male or straight female characteristics.

    Thanks for posting this!

  7. O says:

    Bobby Jindal is an outlier. Indians generally face a lot of discrimination in politics. Admittedly, not as much gays.

  8. Adam says:

    I would not say that all gay men are not interested in Straight men. Many think they can turn them or experiment to get laid with them for fun. And then there are transvestites who try to “Tran-boozle” straight guys. Technically and psychologically speaking a transvestite who is dressed as a woman and wants to have sex with a man is straight becuase he is a woman and seeks the opposite. but physically he is a man in drag looking to do other men which is super gay. And a liar which is terrible. There is nothing wrong with gays i just wish they were not so in your face about it. And that transgenders were not trying to fool people and would say by the way I got a dick. Many people will find my comments insensitive. But I am just being brutally honest. Everyone should be themselves and keep it in the bedroom. Don’t care what you do there just don’t push your agenda on others. Also why would anyone quote the communist Karl Marx? Are you saying gays who lack religion are communists? Well they definitely voted for one and he;s int he white house.

  9. Brandon says:

    Thank you for continuing to debunk myths and being an ally to the gay community! We really need it right now, and data like this can’t be argued against rationally.

  10. Anonymouse says:

    @Anonymous from Oct 13; if you’re referring to their homosexuality as “perversions”, clearly you’re lying about the “live and live {sic} attitude”. You’re giving your bias away. Just like your phrase “gangsta rap thugging trash” shows that you’re racist. However, you’re also expecting us to believe that you were in a jail where inmates were allowed to have conjugal visits in their cells. Bullsh*t. You made this story up.

  11. Jayce says:

    just an FYI your robots that count words aren’t exactly accurate. when someone ‘uses a word to describe thenselves’ according to your robot, it doesn’t neccessarily mean so much that, as it does mean, they typed the words on their page. For instance a girl I started talking to pointe dout the robot mentioned she checked me out even though the robot said, “I think you both like Jazz and metal”. Turns out we both put something to the effect of “I like everything except Jazz” and her’s also added ‘except metal” whereas I actually DO like metal, though I could just as easily have been a tradesmith in the metal industry…Also the data showing ‘the Norm’ painting the ‘indians’ at the bottom of gays. All you are doing is finding one trait out of a bunch. I’m sure this is what you were trying to piont out but the direction in the wording wasn’t there.. Whenever you slice the pie, the slice is ALWAYS smaller than the pie. It doesn’t take a genius to know there are more straight people out there, or that there are less Indian people out there than the larger picture… and again we should be looking at the larger picture.. being that we are all people, who makes choices.
    Lastly these numbers are just that, numbers. As anyone in statistics with an honest heart would tell you, nummbers can be constrewed to make almost any point. Politics do it ALL the time and I am not a fan of politics. You have to be able to interpret the data to get a better picture, but it’s not always 100% accurate… Take it with a grain of salt…
    Penn & Teller I believe even did an episode on statistics (or at least merited a mention of them).. and though even Penn & Teller aren’t always right they sure do a good job at helping people put things into perspective.
    Funny when I looked at the data for characters. Im almost every category I wound up on the side of the Gay community, and yet I’m 99% hetero.. the 1% is an amusing joke from a redneck comedian that asks men in the audience if they know they are all gay. He starts by saying do you like porn? Do you like to only watch lesbians? No they reply…so co-ed alright, you like to see a small shrivelled penis? Guy responds, ‘no i like to see a big hard *** ramming a girl’ and stops a moment as the comedian quotes his words, “you like big hard ***” lol
    And even though im not gay i still know what an attractive man looks like.

  12. RJ says:

    Beautifully said, thank you for bringing honesty and integrity to this important issue.

  13. Jayce says:

    one more comment. just me or reading some of these comments it looks as is the biggest whiners are the bi’s…. you were included from te stats I saw, the fact you didn’t make a large impact on the data relfects on your category and numbers. It did omit the straight vs ga characteristics, however if you would like to use both halves of your brain you could simply satisfy yourself in thinking you are in BOTH categories! As my last comment stated, I am straight but fell into the gay column the majoiry of the characterstics. We all know that generlizations and stereotypes exist for a reason, and are a rule of thumb, not law of physics. the same way if you have 10 people that are 10 years old and 10 people tha are 1 yr old , your norm would be around 5, and yet not a single person was 5!. Math peeople. interpret. Also a side note on the amount of sexual partners, I’m 26 male staright, and am disgusted by the amount of infidelity out there these days. I’ve had 2 partners, the most recent we had lots of sex, it was fun, but i’d rather tug it at home and keep my morals (and health) intact and wait to share something special with someone special.. as nothing is sacred these days i am almost ashamed to even call myself part of the homo-sapien race… I did see a few decent comments however and kudos to those thinkers… i could go on all day refuting and agreeing with these statments but at the end of the day we all make our own decisions an opinions. far be it form me to trying to explain logic to the illogical

  14. Johnnie says:

    Thank you for this illuminating article veritably overflowing with useful, undeniable statistics. Good work team =)

  15. Steven says:

    Awesome research, guys.

  16. Dick Brackin says:

    I am an older gay single white male–77– who remains sexually active. My experience in the States in the past 25 years suggests that there are more heterosexually married men who enjoy, and who are seeking, sex with a man than there are gay men in my age range who are seeking sexual activity with me. All but two of my current relative regulars, both of whom who are divorced, but who were married and have children, continue to be married and live with, and say that they continue to have sex with, their wives–I am not a predator, they all have come on to me and all participate fully in sex with me. In Asia, however, I have sex only with much younger men, both married and straight, all who have come on to me. Asians venerate age, whereas Statesiders tend to be fixated on youth.

  17. corey says:

    i only like straight sex

  18. Porygon2 says:

    Dude. Just… Dude. This just says so much.

  19. deb caldwell says:

    ha ha, Tim. And the person who meets awful persons ANYwhere is undoubtedly an awful person anyway. All my persons are wonders, and i am too.

  20. Ken says:

    6% of straight men have had gay sex and didn’t enjoy themselves. That number is a lot higher than I would have expected, and even frightening.

    Of those 6%, what proportion was non-consensual (i.e., rape)?

    We aren’t given that information, so we’ll make some questionable statistical assumptions as best we can to fill in the data:

    From the chart, we see that men who self-label as “straight”, there’s a 13% (5+7)/(5+7+82) chance that they’re actually bisexual, so 87% actually straight. Assume independence, so that proportion carries through to the 6% who didn’t enjoy themselves, which means 5.2% of actually straight men and 0.76% of “straight” but actually bisexual men didn’t enjoy themselves.

    We conclude that 5.2% of actually straight men (1 in 19) have had non-consensual gay sex, defining “actually straight” as “would never consent to gay sex”.

    What does “didn’t enjoy myself” mean? Does it mean “I tried okra and didn’t enjoy myself”, or “I got raped, and it was the most traumatizing, life-changing, debilitating experience in my life?” And there’s a 5.2% chance of such an occurrence that happening to you? Frightening.

  21. Jon says:

    I’d love to see some supplementary graphs for the # of partners reported.

    The current one does not include information about the age of the reporter.
    This seems important because younger people haven’t had as much time to
    build up a body count. Also, as people get older the rate at which the body
    count increases probably diminishes. When, exactly, do these sexual
    Red Barons rack up their score? Inquiring minds want to know!

    Basically, I’m advocating moving from a promiscuity graph towards a
    3-d promiscuity surface, or a body count “heat map” (pardon the pun).

    Both cumulative and absolute % versions of theses graphs seem like
    they’d be fun to examine.

  22. Conceiver says:

    Reading this article doesn’t change my beliefs about gays in the public. It’s an alternative lifestyle such as bondage for example. People aren’t born gay, it’s their choice to talk funny and chase after the gender.

    If they want to keep their lifestyle in the bedroom, more power to them, but they don’t deserve marital rights and the benefits that cum with being married. In the bible it does state marriage should be between a man and a woman. It has been this way for thousands of years, why all the sudden do gay people want this to change. If it was found morally correct, gay marriage would have been accepted thousands of years ago.

    A lot of the information in this article is just excuses, not scientifically or Biblicaly correct.

    Also, here in California, USA, we had what is called an election. Elections are held to let the citizens of this wonderful country to decide what they feel is acceptable. Elections are the right of the people to allow them to choose what laws are passed as to allowing the Govt to control what goes on. The majority of Californians voted that gay marriage is unacceptable (Proposition 8). I am sure gay people have voted for something they feel needs to be passed and got their way, and no one complained about whatever that was. So why have gay people bitched about a fair and balanced election that was voted by the people, for the people. Homosexual Marriage is not wanted, and neither is gay public display of affection. If they want to live a life of gayness, then they can move to a country that accepts them, but they are not welcomed in the United States of America by the citizens. The People have spoken, stop your whining!!!

    If Gay marriage is made legal, by a gay judge that is, then so should the legal age of consent and make the age limit to something like 9 yrs old. That is also an alternative lifestyle, and many people are born with that disease of Pedophilia (if the argument that gay people are born gay). Why not make rape legal too, maybe it will save a lot of murders. Might as well make separate bathrooms for gay people as their are ones for straight men and straight women.

    This “It Gets Better” ad campaign proves that being gay has consequences, sort of like being a cocaine addict. Maybe Planned Parenthood should begin counseling for gay people to turn them back to straight, sort of like Alcohol Anonymous, but call in Homos Anonymous. Also start teaching homosexuality in elementary school maybe in the 3rd grade, and teach children the risks of being gay (Suicide and AIDS for example).

  23. blu says:

    Agreed on the number of partners issue. I don’t seem to meet people with so few partners, neither.

    Anyhow, I’m one of those women who identify as straight yet has had intimate encounters (kissing mostly) with women and wouldn’t mind going further on occasion. The reason why I didn’t identify as bi is, that while I’m mildly interested in women it is nowhere near the tingling feeling I get when I kiss a guy. It would seem dishonest and misleading to gay or bisexual women if I put bi in my profile.

    Also, since I read that comment of the woman who identified as bi but changed that since she got too many offers from straight men who wanted to objectify her, I just found another reason to keep it the way it is.

  24. A differetn Tim says:

    I really love oktrends and as a data analyst, I’m fascinated by the analysis you guys do with the huge subset of data you have. One thing to bear in mind, however, is that as large as your data set is, even these results are skewed at least to some extent.

    As a gay guy, I find the numbers on promiscuity to be grossly under reported when it comes to gay men. The vast majority of the gay guys I know or have met have had more than 6 partners and many of them FAR more than 6.

    I don’t think the numbers here are “wrong” per se or that your logic is flawed in any way, but consider the sample you’re working with. This site is geared much more heavily towards relationships than “hookups” and from my personal experience, most gay men are not into serious, long term relationships and the ones that are have gone through what’s called “the slut phase”. One thing to keep in mind as you do all this analysis is that the data set you’re analyzing contains primarily unmarried people that are currently (or at least as of the date their profile was created) looking for a relationship. That data set, in an of itself is only a limited cross section of people as a whole.

    Go hit up one of the other traditionally “gay” website like manhunt, adam4adam or god forbid iphone app grindr and you’ll find the other 3/4 of the population that aren’t sampled here. A profile with a decent picture (shirtless if you’ve got the body for it) would get you that many potential sex partners in a day if that’s what you were looking for.

    Just my informed opinion!

  25. z0mgl337 says:

    i would imagine the popular words chart is influenced by members’ desire to fit in with the group in the hopes that will increase the likelihood of their getting laid. but then again, i guess that same trend affects people’s behavior off-site too, so who knows.

  26. Tom says:

    The only possibility I will ever have of co-existance with gays is ignoring them. Tolerance is not a valid option. Stop with this crap.

  27. Mad Cow says:

    Great job! I’ll be spreading this around.

  28. Xanth says:

    OkCupid, you are awesome. I appreciate the information, and I sincerely hope that those out there that really need the education on these manners will find it and learn from it!

  29. Margaret west says:

    I read with interest and am quite sad a chart – explanation is warranted in our so called modern society. Sexual preference is such a small part of a person. As a mother of a gay daughter I do understand prejudice , but then if it’s not about gays it will be about religion , colour.. No charts have been documented about that. Its a sad state of affairs when a person needs to justify their sexuality. Great post.

  30. just stuff says:

    as usual i loved your article could you put some more info about bi profiles?
    also i think there could be an interesting comparison to be made between the stuff straight men like Vs lesbian women and the the stuff straight women like vs. gay men.

  31. Jeff says:

    Great report, thanks.

  32. Me says:

    “Like Frodo to the Balrog, I wished I’d never unearthed it.”

    Why is that, exactly? If it were the other way around, and men had given the wrong answer disproportionately frequently, I have no doubt that you, along with pretty much any other “enlightened” politically correct writer, would be tripping over yourself to herald their discovery with a front-and-center publication, rather than burying it in the middle of another story it had nothing to do with (but I guess kudos to you for mentioning it at all; that’s more than I would have expected).

    But, this reflected badly on a protected class, so let’s all feel bad and wish it never happened? This doesn’t line up with trendy feminist party line, so let’s all silently hope not to have the wrath of the women’s interests outrage machine brought down on us? This doesn’t heap further scorn and derision on men, so let’s not dare draw any inferences from this? Please.

  33. Darin says:

    To all bisexuals complaining about them not being included:

    This article was not about bisexuals! Why doesn’t the Wikipedia article on superconductors mention bisexuals? I don’t know, maybe because it’s not the topic? Oh yeah, AC/DC doesn’t mean bi when talking about electricity. Uppity cry-babies.

  34. Anon says:

    Heh, according to the stuff strait/gay people like, my wife is mostly a gay man with a little gay woman, and I’m partly everything except straight woman. :-)

  35. Colyn says:

    Any chance you could put this into a PDF format which can be printed and distributed?

    Also, THANK YOU!!!

  36. Kevin says:

    As an ESL teacher in Los Angeles, I often seem to be getting into conversations with my predominantly Asian students about gays. They seem quite worried about my safety due to my roommate’s orientation, and I spend a rather large amount of time talking about it with them. Culturally speaking, my students seem generally ignorant of, well LGBT issues in general (aside from my Thai students who are all pretty groovy about it). It seems to me that a lot of the problem (aside from pre-existing religious dogma) is just lack of experience and numbers I can point to. Language education is as much about culture as grammar. Thanks a lot for this article, I hope I can educate some people a little more about this issue with it.

  37. Kyle says:

    This is bloody brilliant! A great read and a great set of research using the thing that I love, okcupid users.

    And I definitely agree with Tim, Jail? Really? LOL!

  38. Aaron says:

    I was just waiting to see the word/name LADY GAGA wow! Lol

  39. Laura says:

    Wonderful article guys, thanks so much for posting this. <3

  40. DavidLL says:

    That is so cool!! I never even thought of using our questions in such a way. Thanks for posting this! It was really interesting.

    I love your idea of replacing “Gay” and “Homosexual” in those posters with “Politician.” Haha, that made me laugh.

  41. Michael says:

    So let me get this strait,the gay guys in jail were not nice. How were the strait guys? Would you trust them to watch your children or maybe lent them your car?

  42. Meiliken says:

    What I think is funny is that when I was in college, one of my classes was on statistics. Guess what? Statistic can say whaever you want them to say, so in reality, statistics are completely unreliable. They are only as trustworthy as the person writing them. I’ve been all over the world, and all over the U.S. and can say for a fact, that these stats are completely bogus. The majority of straight people do not fantasize over the same sex, nor are the majority of straights hidden bi’s. Take a statistics class, and you’ll know what I say is fact.

  43. Eclipse says:

    I kind of disagree. I have 10-20 homosexual friends and all the males have expressed interest… in some cases A LOT.

    And I once found porn specifically titled, and ‘acted’ to pretend the men in it weren’t gay whilst helping transfer files to a new computer. I laughed, and said “You’re telling me gays want straight men? That’s absurd! Good way to get a beating if you ask me.” Then I realized the whole straight guy attraction to lesbians isn’t that far off and it made sense to me,

    Gays aren’t a threat as you mentioned a lot of failures think they are, but I definitely disagree 100% with a blanket statement saying gays are simply uninterested in straight people. That’s ignorant imho.

  44. J says:

    I think the fact that users can change sexual preference at will negates the findings that gay people are not interested in straight people.

    I think it would be more interesting to explore different definitions of gay or straight. Maybe some kind of graph about where people fall on a spectrum between gay and straight. The entire idea of labeling your sexuality is interesting when everyone has a different opinion on sex.

  45. Brandon says:

    something this stupid country is failing to realize is that EVERY society or empire that has supported gays&gay marriage has fallen.america is on last legs already.this usa will fall sooner or later,but the legalization of homosexual marriage&togetherness will be america burying itself&even plunging the first shovel for the grave.land of the free my ass.more like land where freedoms are taken away&the government makes the poor man get poorer.that is why I hate america.

  46. Joe says:

    I love the prison guy’s comment. Get this guy a sitcom!

  47. Andy says:

    “A practicing homosexual”, huh? How insulting! Homosexuality is not something you practice! I agree with replacing that word with “politician”! Politicians shouldn’t be allowed within 200 feet of any child lest the child becomes corrupt!

  48. Andy says:

    “Okay boys are you ready for Homosexual Rehearsal 101?! It’s my first time teaching the class so be gentle!”

  49. mikael says:

    Don’t you find it more than a little coincidental that the overwhelming majority of straight men’s favorite “stuff” are Band of Brothers, his buddies, and a whole bunch of activities that don’t involve chicks at all? And straight women’s favorite “stuff” is their GIRLFRIENDS, pretty WOMAN, nurses, and her mom? Isn’t that kinda…gay?

    Whereas gay dudes like britney spears, mean GIRLS, Kelly Clarkson, LADY Gaga, Gossip GIRL, and project runaway, which is a show about models? And Gay women… lol Gay women walk around with a neon sign on their forehead that says I LIKE WOMEN AND I WANT YOU TO KNOW ABOUT IT, always trying to prove that they hate men.

    Great blog pplz

  50. Ryan Darius Partovi, JD, ND, MIFHI says:

    “As for straight men, a surprisingly high 13% have had a same-sex experience, and another 5% haven’t yet but would like to.”

    Surprisingly high? Only if you haven’t read the Kinsey Reports: Sexual Behavior in the Human Male published in 1948! The reports reveal that nearly 46% of the male subjects had “reacted” sexually to persons of both sexes in the course of their adult lives, and 37% had at least one homosexual experience.

    So, if 10% of those 37% self-identify as “gay,” assuming no more than 5% are self-identifying as “bi,” that would leave at least 22% of men self-identifying as “straight” who have had at least one sexual encounter with a person of the same sex… in 1948. I would suspect that number is even higher now.

    As for your “surprisingly high” finding of 13% (rather low, in my view) of self-identified “straight” men who’ve had sex with another man, I would argue that people coming to a dating site are (for better or for worse) more likely to answer questions in the way they would like to be perceived or with the answer that they might like their prospective partner of their preferred gender to know than to answer truthfully.

    The conclusion is pretty clear, just as Kinsey said, most people fall somewhere on a spectrum between gay and straight. Where we self-identify says more about our desired partner than our own capacity to be attracted to the same (or opposite) sex.