Comments on: The 4 Big Myths of Profile Pictures http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/01/20/the-4-big-myths-of-profile-pictures/ The Official Blog of OkCupid.com Tue, 15 Jun 2010 21:17:33 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Leslie Wilder http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/01/20/the-4-big-myths-of-profile-pictures/comment-page-7/#comment-12603 Leslie Wilder Sun, 13 Jun 2010 12:36:41 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1355#comment-12603 I just wanted you guys to know, I am 58,but your tests say, mentally I am 45.(lol)...So, I wanted to let you know, throughout life as doing some modeling, being dropped by my 2 plain looking sisters in plans for a vacation together to Puerto Rico, and being sneakily invited out by "frienemies" to bar-hopping for about 10 years, I decided, good looks are sometimes a bad thing. The sisters wanted all the men for themselves(I am 5'8",bl,bl), and girlfriends wanting my table scraps......jealousy, etc. , so I at first posted really bad, and still have a few up, pics. Now, age has helped me be normal. But, back then,and still now when I get made-up normal like other women my age, women tend to keep their husbands far away, and me now being single, I never get invites to couples anything, and singles almost never.Who wants to compete with what my 2 husbands used to call me the "christy brinkley" type of woman. Life has been very difficult for me, so now I pick and choose. Men,being visual,wonderful creatures, tend to look at the outside first. So, I choose to be picking my man.......but this time he gets only to see the "good girl" side of me, and the naughty side in the BR. I have lived this and known this to be true. My father told me the night before marriage,"Be a lady on the street, and a wh__ in the bedroom." My mom fainted!!! So, believe me, I know men want sex, and I am very sensual and experimental, role-playing is my style and most men LOVE it.......... But, I must admit, for a long term R., better get the head on straight, get a man with an interesting mind , without sex first please, and I will be thrilled and so will he in the bedroom. Oh, I can't wait until I am a nurse, I can just hear the comments! I am gregarious, and humorous to boot, so this ensures women want me the farthest away from their boyfriends as possible. They have boring conversations at parties, and men don't. Sorry ladies, I just like brainy men! To me, brains trump looks any, every day, and yes I actually salivate in my mouth over one, but keep it a secret. Only you guys know now. :) lol........ I just wanted you guys to know, I am 58,but your tests say, mentally I am 45.(lol)…So, I wanted to let you know, throughout life as doing some modeling, being dropped by my 2 plain looking sisters in plans for a vacation together to Puerto Rico, and being sneakily invited out by “frienemies” to bar-hopping for about 10 years, I decided, good looks are sometimes a bad thing.
The sisters wanted all the men for themselves(I am 5′8″,bl,bl), and girlfriends wanting my table scraps……jealousy, etc. , so I at first posted really bad, and still have a few up, pics.
Now, age has helped me be normal. But, back then,and still now when I get made-up normal like other women my age, women tend to keep their husbands far away, and me now being single, I never get invites to couples anything, and singles almost never.Who wants to compete with what my 2 husbands used to call me the “christy brinkley” type of woman.
Life has been very difficult for me, so now I pick and choose. Men,being visual,wonderful creatures, tend to look at the outside first. So, I choose to be picking my man…….but this time he gets only to see the “good girl” side of me, and the naughty side in the BR. I have lived this and known this to be true.
My father told me the night before marriage,”Be a lady on the street, and a wh__ in the bedroom.” My mom fainted!!!
So, believe me, I know men want sex, and I am very sensual and experimental, role-playing is my style and most men LOVE it……….
But, I must admit, for a long term R., better get the head on straight, get a man with an interesting mind , without sex first please, and I will be thrilled and so will he in the bedroom.
Oh, I can’t wait until I am a nurse, I can just hear the comments! I am gregarious, and humorous to boot, so this ensures women want me the farthest away from their boyfriends as possible. They have boring conversations at parties, and men don’t. Sorry ladies, I just like brainy men! To me, brains trump looks any, every day, and yes I actually salivate in my mouth over one, but keep it a secret. Only you guys know now. :) lol……..

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By: Faithlynn Phillips http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/01/20/the-4-big-myths-of-profile-pictures/comment-page-7/#comment-12493 Faithlynn Phillips Mon, 07 Jun 2010 22:43:23 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1355#comment-12493 hey, this is faithlynn again... what i meant to say was that online dating ONLY takes you so far... and you can ignore what i said about putting true recent pics. of your self and just do whatever you want becaue i realized that it goes as far as you want it to go plus the pictures are kinda cute... so any way just do whatever you wanna do hey, this is faithlynn again… what i meant to say was that online dating ONLY takes you so far… and you can ignore what i said about putting true recent pics. of your self and just do whatever you want becaue i realized that it goes as far as you want it to go plus the pictures are kinda cute… so any way just do whatever you wanna do

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By: Faithlynn Phillips http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/01/20/the-4-big-myths-of-profile-pictures/comment-page-6/#comment-12492 Faithlynn Phillips Mon, 07 Jun 2010 22:34:12 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1355#comment-12492 i agree on what danny roberts said how online dating take you so far and that you should put recent true pics. of yourself instead of fake! i agree on what danny roberts said how online dating take you so far and that you should put recent true pics. of yourself instead of fake!

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By: Danny Roberts http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/01/20/the-4-big-myths-of-profile-pictures/comment-page-6/#comment-12095 Danny Roberts Thu, 27 May 2010 13:38:05 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1355#comment-12095 I feel fake pictures only take you so far in online dating. If you have plans to meet someone in real life, you might as well put up a picture that is recent and a true reflection of yourself. I feel fake pictures only take you so far in online dating. If you have plans to meet someone in real life, you might as well put up a picture that is recent and a true reflection of yourself.

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By: PhotoDrew http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/01/20/the-4-big-myths-of-profile-pictures/comment-page-6/#comment-11764 PhotoDrew Thu, 20 May 2010 03:13:22 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1355#comment-11764 I get emails all the time that say, I like your pics. But that's because I'm a photographer and I know how to take self portrait, and I understand that I don't have the abs, and will agree with the people who think it's chuck full of douchebaggery. I also don't like the myspace shot. It's lame. I get emails all the time that say, I like your pics. But that’s because I’m a photographer and I know how to take self portrait, and I understand that I don’t have the abs, and will agree with the people who think it’s chuck full of douchebaggery. I also don’t like the myspace shot. It’s lame.

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By: chuck40281 http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/01/20/the-4-big-myths-of-profile-pictures/comment-page-6/#comment-11763 chuck40281 Thu, 20 May 2010 02:14:42 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1355#comment-11763 The only reason some of those types work (such as the "Myspace" shot) is because they are deceptive. Given the choice between the picture of the fat girl that hides that she is fat or the picture that shows that she is fat, of course guys are going to prefer the picture that shows she is fat. And then, when they actually meet her, they will be very disappointed because the picture lied to them. A picture making a better impression doesn't make it more honest, or lead to better dates. The only reason some of those types work (such as the “Myspace” shot) is because they are deceptive. Given the choice between the picture of the fat girl that hides that she is fat or the picture that shows that she is fat, of course guys are going to prefer the picture that shows she is fat. And then, when they actually meet her, they will be very disappointed because the picture lied to them. A picture making a better impression doesn’t make it more honest, or lead to better dates.

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By: E_N_F_P http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/01/20/the-4-big-myths-of-profile-pictures/comment-page-6/#comment-11211 E_N_F_P Wed, 12 May 2010 18:08:52 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1355#comment-11211 Ok, so this comment/retort is for all the chunky girls out there... One guy commented as though all the chubby girls out there are lying in wait on the internet using their "My Space Angles" photos to get their pudgey, Cheeto stained fingers on him. This seemed to me to be the same mind set of a homophobic. Well, here's some news hot stuff, not all fat chicks would even give you a second glance...much as not all gay men want you just because you have a penis. I know that has to hurt in the ego department a little but hey, it's true. I would also like to say to any guy retarded enough to where a "No Fat Chicks" shirt...now only does it keep the fatties away...it also keeps away anything with a vagina. I can proudly say I'm a chubby girl. It works for me. I've never, not once, met someone and had them be like "OMG you're a fatty!". Do you know why? I know better than to talk to douche bags who are completely superficially motived. I mean hey, you preffer girls who are willowy and slender more power to you, go get em' tiger. But, there's no need to talk trash about anyone with a little cushion for the pushin'. I like having, tits, hips and butt. When I get down to it in the bed room I preffer not to be having a hip bone duel. K? Thanks. Now, I of course know you need to be attracted to someone on a certain level to even want to entertain the idea of doing anything with them but I am proud to say that I've had many a good conversation with someone on OKC with no photo in their profile at all. Would I meet them site unseen? Hell no. But, can I converse with them and enjoy the exchange? Yes. You really don't need to size eveyone up as a potential love toy in order to be able to converse with them. Just chillax. I also send messages to people just to comment or to compliment. Does it mean I want to sex them up or even speak to them any further? Nope. Just being social. I think a lot of people take this way to seriously. I mean WAY to seriously. I don't think I'm going to meet Mr. Right on OKC...maybe Mr. Right Now. I enjoy the site for the social interaction and the delicious voyerism into other people's idea of themselves...it keeps me coming back. I ligitimated enjoy people for what they are even if I find about 91.2% of them undatable. My profile pic guide lines when it comes to guys: Pic of you and any vehicle, motorized or not? Douche Pic of you and any female...whether you say it's your Cousin, Sister, Aunt Judy? Douche *exception for female children under the age of 10 Pic of you embibing any alcoholic beverage or intoxicating substance? Douche Pic of you on that vacation from like five years ago to whatever exotic locale that is the highlight of your life so far? Douche Pic of any of your sexy parts other than your face (which is where it's at)? Douche Pics of you in uniform, or dressed for some man job or for a wedding? Douche Pic of you and your friends acting like douches? Douche *we all already know that guys act like morons with their friends, we don't need photographical evidence Profile pic hotness? You doing something weird that makes me need to know what it is. (note: this does not included touching yourself) A big cheesey smile or making a fun silly face. Always adorable....unless you're just not. You with a pet...anything except a reptile. Most people with retiles are creepers...maybe you aren't but let me find out about Mr. Fuzzles the Iguana later, please. You eating something that looks delicious. You doing anything related to Guitar Hero or Rock Band...now I know you don't take yourself to seriously. Anyway, good luck, kids. Have fun out there. Remember, OKC is not going to make or break you for being alone the rest of your life...only you can do that for you! So, get on it! Ok, so this comment/retort is for all the chunky girls out there…

One guy commented as though all the chubby girls out there are lying in wait on the internet using their “My Space Angles” photos to get their pudgey, Cheeto stained fingers on him. This seemed to me to be the same mind set of a homophobic. Well, here’s some news hot stuff, not all fat chicks would even give you a second glance…much as not all gay men want you just because you have a penis. I know that has to hurt in the ego department a little but hey, it’s true. I would also like to say to any guy retarded enough to where a “No Fat Chicks” shirt…now only does it keep the fatties away…it also keeps away anything with a vagina.

I can proudly say I’m a chubby girl. It works for me. I’ve never, not once, met someone and had them be like “OMG you’re a fatty!”. Do you know why? I know better than to talk to douche bags who are completely superficially motived. I mean hey, you preffer girls who are willowy and slender more power to you, go get em’ tiger. But, there’s no need to talk trash about anyone with a little cushion for the pushin’. I like having, tits, hips and butt. When I get down to it in the bed room I preffer not to be having a hip bone duel. K? Thanks.

Now, I of course know you need to be attracted to someone on a certain level to even want to entertain the idea of doing anything with them but I am proud to say that I’ve had many a good conversation with someone on OKC with no photo in their profile at all. Would I meet them site unseen? Hell no. But, can I converse with them and enjoy the exchange? Yes. You really don’t need to size eveyone up as a potential love toy in order to be able to converse with them. Just chillax. I also send messages to people just to comment or to compliment. Does it mean I want to sex them up or even speak to them any further? Nope. Just being social.

I think a lot of people take this way to seriously. I mean WAY to seriously. I don’t think I’m going to meet Mr. Right on OKC…maybe Mr. Right Now. I enjoy the site for the social interaction and the delicious voyerism into other people’s idea of themselves…it keeps me coming back. I ligitimated enjoy people for what they are even if I find about 91.2% of them undatable.

My profile pic guide lines when it comes to guys:

Pic of you and any vehicle, motorized or not? Douche
Pic of you and any female…whether you say it’s your Cousin, Sister, Aunt Judy? Douche *exception for female children under the age of 10
Pic of you embibing any alcoholic beverage or intoxicating substance? Douche
Pic of you on that vacation from like five years ago to whatever exotic locale that is the highlight of your life so far? Douche
Pic of any of your sexy parts other than your face (which is where it’s at)? Douche
Pics of you in uniform, or dressed for some man job or for a wedding? Douche
Pic of you and your friends acting like douches? Douche *we all already know that guys act like morons with their friends, we don’t need photographical evidence

Profile pic hotness?

You doing something weird that makes me need to know what it is. (note: this does not included touching yourself)
A big cheesey smile or making a fun silly face. Always adorable….unless you’re just not.
You with a pet…anything except a reptile. Most people with retiles are creepers…maybe you aren’t but let me find out about Mr. Fuzzles the Iguana later, please.
You eating something that looks delicious.
You doing anything related to Guitar Hero or Rock Band…now I know you don’t take yourself to seriously.

Anyway, good luck, kids. Have fun out there.

Remember, OKC is not going to make or break you for being alone the rest of your life…only you can do that for you! So, get on it!

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By: Adam http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/01/20/the-4-big-myths-of-profile-pictures/comment-page-6/#comment-11191 Adam Wed, 12 May 2010 15:08:55 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1355#comment-11191 Hi Christian, this is absolutely awesome, but the "facial attitude" charts confused me; two bars are measuring smile/no-smile and the third bar is measuring something that varies independently from that? Or is flirty-face actually a third category that can't overlap with smiling or not smiling? Hi Christian, this is absolutely awesome, but the “facial attitude” charts confused me; two bars are measuring smile/no-smile and the third bar is measuring something that varies independently from that? Or is flirty-face actually a third category that can’t overlap with smiling or not smiling?

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By: angelica http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/01/20/the-4-big-myths-of-profile-pictures/comment-page-6/#comment-11112 angelica Tue, 11 May 2010 20:07:26 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1355#comment-11112 I know this is well after the fact, and it isn't a comment on yr analyses - these posts are generally excellent - but could I just make one request: please, in future, don't use the word "lame"? To draw an analogy that I hope OkCupid peeps would be pretty down with, it's like using "gay" as a generalised negative descriptor, but it denigrates disability rather than sexuality. I know this is well after the fact, and it isn’t a comment on yr analyses – these posts are generally excellent – but could I just make one request: please, in future, don’t use the word “lame”? To draw an analogy that I hope OkCupid peeps would be pretty down with, it’s like using “gay” as a generalised negative descriptor, but it denigrates disability rather than sexuality.

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By: Guy Hughes http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/01/20/the-4-big-myths-of-profile-pictures/comment-page-6/#comment-11067 Guy Hughes Mon, 10 May 2010 21:57:36 +0000 http://blog.okcupid.com/?p=1355#comment-11067 How do I delete one Profile Picture and substitute another? How do I delete one Profile Picture and substitute another?

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