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Title: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: moonbear on January 20, 2012, 03:46 pm
I have a problem. My parents hate the fact that I use drugs.
My Dad is a respectable man who just doesn't understand the positive side to drugs. He has a doctorate in psychology and even has published work. However, he's adamant in his view on drugs. I want to settle the matter with him without losing his respect for me. He keeps telling me to stop using drugs or he will distance himself from me. What should I do?
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: SuperDimitri on January 20, 2012, 05:31 pm
Well, it seems to me that those types of people will NEVER respect you. People who are against drugs, are oddly FOR pharmaceuticals. Being a psychopath...err.....psychologist tells me he is probably way down with BigPharma, especially if he has published works. Not to knock your father, but all psychologists....I've never found psychologists to be a trustworthy people. What they learn is from books, and not life or experience. He probably prescribes drugs that he's never taken. It seems as though he would never respect you if you told him. But love, real love, conquers all. If he really loved you, he still would if he knew about your addictions. Respect is totally different.
When I was 14 my mom asked if I had a drug problem. I said yes,there's not enough! We had a serious talk, she cried a lot, but in the end, I retained the love of my mom, and her respect. I told her basically what Mr. Grey said. I said, I am going to do it, and I am still going to love you, and if you decide to not still love me, that is YOUR choice, not mine.
My father never cared what I did, so that wasn't a problem.
It also helps if you are a responsible adult who pays their own bills, insurance, etc. Jobless, homeless bums are not respectable addicts.
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: moonbear on January 20, 2012, 06:00 pm
Well, it seems to me that those types of people will NEVER respect you. People who are against drugs, are oddly FOR pharmaceuticals. Being a psychopath...err.....psychologist tells me he is probably way down with BigPharma, especially if he has published works. Not to knock your father, but all psychologists....I've never found psychologists to be a trustworthy people. What they learn is from books, and not life or experience. He probably prescribes drugs that he's never taken. It seems as though he would never respect you if you told him. But love, real love, conquers all. If he really loved you, he still would if he knew about your addictions. Respect is totally different.
When I was 14 my mom asked if I had a drug problem. I said yes,there's not enough! We had a serious talk, she cried a lot, but in the end, I retained the love of my mom, and her respect. I told her basically what Mr. Grey said. I said, I am going to do it, and I am still going to love you, and if you decide to not still love me, that is YOUR choice, not mine.
My father never cared what I did, so that wasn't a problem.
It also helps if you are a responsible adult who pays their own bills, insurance, etc. Jobless, homeless bums are not respectable addicts.
Thanks for your advice. I will try to explain this to my dad as I have before. When I try to be straightforward he typically says something like, "just remember your dad warned you not to go down that road." At least he's not a hypocrite, though. He does not prescribe drugs, and he actually told me when I was little not to take my adhd medication. Perhaps he was right, since I'm now addicted to it.

I don't see where the problem is with people who hate drugs. I'm a deans list student and use drugs. But somehow all my success in life is forgotten when people realize I don't conform to their social norms and values. I wish I could find a way to understand their closed-minded mentality and try to fix it.
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: NeveWitch on January 20, 2012, 06:18 pm
That's a tough situation, and in all honesty, it's incredibly difficult to argue down your parents, even if you are right, and they know you're right, because chances are, they're probably not going to give in because that was their line of thinking for so long and they won't easily admit defeat.

Clearly, your parents are associating drug use with something incredibly negative. Why? Because it's illegal? If that's the case, then is alcohol or nicotine any better just because it's legal? Because they fear that it will become your downfall? Clearly, you've been successful what with being a dean's list student. I guess my best advice is to ask your dad why he thinks it's so bad. I mean, he's got a degree and he's a psychologist, so clearly he should have intelligence and reason to discuss this with you in a mature manner. Get to the root of why he looks down upon drug use, and work from there.

Good luck!
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: SuperDimitri on January 20, 2012, 06:18 pm
Are you a surgical technician?? I know a neural surgeon who's twacked out ALL the time!! And he works on BRAINS! He has great acid, though!
I am with you, wishing we could open people's eyes,not everyone who likes to get high is a total loser. We still pay bills, take kids to sports games, practices, etc. We are not ALL criminals. I have NEVER ripped anyone off (yes, I stole from stores as a kid), never stole from anyone's home, never lost or quit a job for or over drugs.
It's also nice to hear your dad doesn't prescribe pharms. Maybe he REALLY does want to help people. This is awesome. Most psychologists just  in it for the $$.
IF he's paying  your tuition, I would wait til graduation! But in all honesty, I think he will still love you, maybe not respect you, but maybe over time?? And if yu're really worried, just don't tell him. I know it's hard, but sometimes it's best.
Family means the world to me, so I hope everything works out for you and your family. In the end, it's all we have.
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: xx138xx on January 20, 2012, 06:38 pm
There are ALOT of people with extensive educations who use drugs quite regularly. It's the only way some of us can deal with other people's bullshit :P    Most likely though, your parents won't want to listen at all. It might be worth a laugh to mention to your dad that Sigmund Freud, someone famous in a field related to your dad's, used cocaine daily for many years. There's also a Nature article from 2008 stating an estimated 20% of scientists in academia use brain boosting drugs like provigil and ritalin. These drugs are even more popular now so the % likely has gone up. Maybe your dad has a chip on his shoulder from having to compete with the people in his field doing drugs?  Another gotchya for non drug users is the fact that Francis Crick, a Nobel prizer winner in genetics, was tripping balls on LSD when he first deduced the double helix structure of DNA. Or Paul Erdos, a major methhead and one of the greatest mathematicians of the 20th century. Steve Jobs dropped acid too. And don't forget Carl Sagan and Aldous Huxley.

But parents never want to hear about the facts when they have decades of government propaganda to use as a club on their own kids.
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: moonbear on January 20, 2012, 06:41 pm
Are you a surgical technician?? I know a neural surgeon who's twacked out ALL the time!! And he works on BRAINS! He has great acid, though!
I am with you, wishing we could open people's eyes,not everyone who likes to get high is a total loser. We still pay bills, take kids to sports games, practices, etc. We are not ALL criminals. I have NEVER ripped anyone off (yes, I stole from stores as a kid), never stole from anyone's home, never lost or quit a job for or over drugs.
It's also nice to hear your dad doesn't prescribe pharms. Maybe he REALLY does want to help people. This is awesome. Most psychologists just  in it for the $$.
IF he's paying  your tuition, I would wait til graduation! But in all honesty, I think he will still love you, maybe not respect you, but maybe over time?? And if yu're really worried, just don't tell him. I know it's hard, but sometimes it's best.
Family means the world to me, so I hope everything works out for you and your family. In the end, it's all we have.
Aa neurosurgeon who uses drugs? I'd actually like to hear more about this, sounds interesting. I'm also glad to hear you do drugs and have had a successful life anyway.
I agree that family's important. Thats why I'm trying to keep my dads respect
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: moonbear on January 20, 2012, 06:45 pm
That's a tough situation, and in all honesty, it's incredibly difficult to argue down your parents, even if you are right, and they know you're right, because chances are, they're probably not going to give in because that was their line of thinking for so long and they won't easily admit defeat.

Clearly, your parents are associating drug use with something incredibly negative. Why? Because it's illegal? If that's the case, then is alcohol or nicotine any better just because it's legal? Because they fear that it will become your downfall? Clearly, you've been successful what with being a dean's list student. I guess my best advice is to ask your dad why he thinks it's so bad. I mean, he's got a degree and he's a psychologist, so clearly he should have intelligence and reason to discuss this with you in a mature manner. Get to the root of why he looks down upon drug use, and work from there.

Good luck!
I think I'll try this. I have to find out why he thinks drugs will be my "downfall" as he often says. Thanks for the advice
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: Dazarius on January 20, 2012, 06:55 pm
With my parents it seems that it's impossible just to tell them. Not that they can do something to me but as they just can't understand that's not a hurtful thing to cope with. So I came to solution that only possible way is to give my dad LSD with perfect setting and he can see himself. I haven't done that and I don't believe much I ever will. Times are changing and it's not for all the people to drop their illusions where they've lived for decades.
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: Mauser on January 20, 2012, 07:28 pm
Why do you want to tell your parents ?
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: onestopshop on January 20, 2012, 08:48 pm
Why do you want to tell your parents ?

I think they already know in his case, I think he just wants some smart-ass things to say so he doesn't come across as a junkie but rather a responsible drug user.
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: novocaine on January 20, 2012, 09:18 pm
Maybe your dad doesn't have a problem with drugs but he has a problem with his 14 year old kid taking them when he should be doing 14 year old stuff like swapping pokomon cards and doing homework and maybe thinking about what he is going to do for the rest of his life with a fucking clear head??
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: Mauser on January 20, 2012, 09:31 pm
When they already know I don't think he can reflect himself as a responsible drug user any more.

I think his dad just has troubles with the addiction he notices, not particular the drugs itself.


Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: wowzers on January 20, 2012, 09:39 pm
I was pretty lucky, I started smoking weed at 14- around the same time I discovered my parents had been doing it for the past 20 years. They discovered when I was 15 and let me smoke in the house. Their attitude was 'at least we know where you are, who you buy from and what you're doing'. Their approach to parenting left me with nothing to rebel against, so I was a pretty well behaved teenager. I was also lucky enough to have some frank discussions with them about their own drug use in the '70's (acid, speed and opium).

Whilst I was fascinated by drugs and academically pursued the subject, I had no real desire to try anything other than weed until I was nearly 20. My parents have never fully approved of my other drug use but I've always been open with them and they've become more accepting.
For example, MDMA was almost unknown in the UK when they were younger so they have always leaned towards the 'one hit could kill you' side of the argument. However, now they know that I take it (I've even taken it around them, at a festival last year)- they're more relaxed about it and recognize that it's a relatively benign drug.

I would suggest that you talk openly to your parents about drugs, but don't force the issue. If it comes up in conversation, then talk neutrally about drugs- both the benefits and possible negative effects. Show them articles about drugs, but not pro or anti drug propaganda. If they ask you if you've tried 'xxx' then be honest and tell them about the experience. Show them you're responsible, rational and educated. Try to educate them too.
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: Mauser on January 20, 2012, 09:45 pm
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Show them you're responsible, rational and educated.

That's the problem. Not everyone can.
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: wowzers on January 20, 2012, 09:56 pm
If you can't, you're probably not.
But if parents are really that reactionary, irrational and untrusting of their adult children then they don't deserve to know what their kids get up to.
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: Dobbs on January 20, 2012, 10:35 pm
I started smoking weed when I was around 12 years old, and I'm 46 now.  My parents found out when I was around 15.  They didn't like it, but at the time there wasn't much they could do about it.  I was a good student, played on a varsity sports team, sat first chair in the band.  I had a part time job. Put myself through college.  Bought a home.

Now they kind of accept it.  I'm not stoned all the time.  Its not the focus of my life.  Its like, some people have a couple beers to have fun, I choose a small puff or edible.  Now I'm old enough to start seeing it as medicine.  HELL maybe it WAS medicine all that time and I didn't even know it (aka self medication). 

I'm not burnt out.  I don't look like a bum.  I look average.  I'm educated with a good job.  My life is manageable.

However when your life becomes unmanageable and the drugs are your main focus, that's when you tell your dad and ask him to help you quit.  Until then, its like jerking off.  Everyone knows you are doing it, but no one is going to talk about it.
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: thesatelliteoflove on January 20, 2012, 10:47 pm
Try to be the best damn person you can be. Get good grades, be polite, kind and caring. Take care of your physical appearance. If they see that you're not the junkie they believe you'll become, perhaps they will get off your case. Otherwise, I don't know what to tell ya.

Job-wise, that's a really tough situation because hell, nobody can get a job in this shitty economy :-/
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: TravellingWithoutMoving on January 21, 2012, 02:54 am
I have a problem. My parents hate the fact that I use drugs.
My Dad is a respectable man who just doesn't understand the positive side to drugs. He has a doctorate in psychology and even has published work. However, he's adamant in his view on drugs. I want to settle the matter with him without losing his respect for me. He keeps telling me to stop using drugs or he will distance himself from me. What should I do?

...i can't think of a more difficult situation -your father and a psychologist and opposes drugs, i don't imagine you will gain much ground there, i think this is a wind-up..?!
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: JamesDeansSkull on January 21, 2012, 03:38 am
... I think he is disappointed he never had a son


Sac up!
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: moonbear on January 23, 2012, 03:17 pm
"Hey dad, why don't you like drugs?"
"Doesn't matter"
"Well why will you let me have a beer but not smoke a bowl?"
"You know why, stop talking about it"
"Are you familiar with Sigmund Freud?"
"Yes"
"Well what do you think of him?"
"He was a fucki-... a freak"
"What?! He was a great thinker!"
"Lot's of great thinkers were idiots"
"Dad, how were you able to get your doctorate?"

And this is a guy who does speeches/presentations at colleges. It makes no sense.
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: moonbear on January 23, 2012, 03:43 pm
sorry mate, i don't think you're going to win your dad round with ANY argument, most old boys are set it their ways of thinking and it's gonna take a lot more than his own child, whatever age, to change his view on anything as 'serious' as drugs.

when my dad found out i did shit he was more keener to try stuff than i was! he doesn't buy it, i've told him to leave it to me so 1. he don't get ripped off, and 2. i can see if hes forming some sort of habit. which he isn't - hes never asked me to get him anything other than pot, it's just when he has a couple of beers he starts asking about other stuff, but whenever i go to his for the weekend i've always got a stash of coke and mandy cos he fucking loves it!

old boys eh?
Your very lucky. I wish I could bond with my dad like that
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: onestopshop on January 23, 2012, 05:21 pm
might be easier when you get older...he's probably dismissing your opinions/arguments due to your age or he could just be plain ignorant
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: TravellingWithoutMoving on January 23, 2012, 09:27 pm
...what sort of answers were you expecting to get then?

Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: moonbear on January 23, 2012, 09:38 pm
...what sort of answers were you expecting to get then?
Good point. But I had to try anyway.
I wish there was a magic trick to just open someone's eyes and rid them of ignorance...

By the way, is your username just meant to be trippy, or is their an idea behind it? It caught my interest.
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: John Keats on January 23, 2012, 10:00 pm
There are some types of people that you just cannot convince.

I got a 4.0 in high school, three varsity letters, went on to an Ivy League school. But freshman year of college I got a minor charge for marijuana possession and my parents have never looked at me the same way again. Gosh that was more than a decade ago yet they still won't let it go. When my mom died, my dad said it was from the stress of her knowing that she had a junkie for a son lmao.

"A closed mind is the noose asphyxiating humanity."
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: potpuppy on January 23, 2012, 10:58 pm
If you live with your father, then i wouldn't tell him. If you don't, then gather all facts about the drug you use. Effects on body,mind, damage it may cause ECt. Then prove your point. Weigh the pros and cons. Good Luck
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: NeveWitch on January 23, 2012, 11:02 pm
Sorry to hear it didn't get very far, but it seemed like it was destined to be that way from the beginning. Good attempt, though.

...what sort of answers were you expecting to get then?
Good point. But I had to try anyway.
I wish there was a magic trick to just open someone's eyes and rid them of ignorance...

By the way, is your username just meant to be trippy, or is their an idea behind it? It caught my interest.

I think "Traveling without moving" is a reference to the Dune books and movies. I haven't read the books or seen the movies, but I believe that was their form of hyperspace/warping travel. Jamiroquai released an album under the same name, and I'm pretty sure that was inspired by Dune as well.
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: TravellingWithoutMoving on January 24, 2012, 01:14 am
...what sort of answers were you expecting to get then?
Good point. But I had to try anyway.
I wish there was a magic trick to just open someone's eyes and rid them of ignorance...

By the way, is your username just meant to be trippy, or is their an idea behind it? It caught my interest.

....ok, so you know how difficult it would be to "argue" with a psychiatrist after all its his job.
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: moonbear on January 24, 2012, 03:50 am
There are some types of people that you just cannot convince.

I got a 4.0 in high school, three varsity letters, went on to an Ivy League school. But freshman year of college I got a minor charge for marijuana possession and my parents have never looked at me the same way again. Gosh that was more than a decade ago yet they still won't let it go. When my mom died, my dad said it was from the stress of her knowing that she had a junkie for a son lmao.

"A closed mind is the noose asphyxiating humanity."
What an asshole. I wish there were a way to fix people like that...
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: Heyenezz on January 24, 2012, 04:42 am
Honestly, the easiest way to regain their respect is to stop using the drugs.

If you want to keep using the drugs and still have their respect, you have to compensate by achieving difficult tasks.

So, how what's the hardest thing you could do to gain your parents' respect besides discontinuing your drug use?

Sorry, I know it sucks to hear that, but those are your only options.
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: dexterjero25 on January 24, 2012, 05:36 am
I'll chime in here. If you are under 18 maybe you should chill out on drugs until you are a little older, let the ol' brain develop a little first. Other than that, I believe it's your choice to use drugs. I love how everyone who is against legalization is also an alcoholic or a smoker, they usually sit on their high horse with there martini's looking down their noses on people who do as little as smoke pot. I'll tell you one thing, I am a science major who smokes pot every single day, even before major tests and class, and I am on the president's list. So don't listen to what others tell you is right, because most of the laws have been put in place to keep you in place. Just don't kill yourself in the process, people love to use the statistics of drug abuse to justify the means.
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: novocaine on January 24, 2012, 06:12 am
"Hey dad, why don't you like drugs?"
"Doesn't matter"
"Well why will you let me have a beer but not smoke a bowl?"
"You know why, stop talking about it"
"Are you familiar with Sigmund Freud?"
"Yes"
"Well what do you think of him?"
"He was a fucki-... a freak"
"What?! He was a great thinker!"
"Lot's of great thinkers were idiots"
"Dad, how were you able to get your doctorate?"

And this is a guy who does speeches/presentations at colleges. It makes no sense.

Lots of stoners are great thinkers.....buts that is it. Sit, smoke and think all day. Awesome, how bout they get off the couch and do something with those ideas.
No offense to stoners but I see a lot of stoners thinking great things and then I see stoners work hard all day long, but I have never met a stoner that can do both at the same time.

haha
"Smoking weed makes me a better driver"... clearly not one of the most thought out stoner remarks. (comes in at #2 in the top 10)
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: Kovol on January 24, 2012, 07:27 am
I think your best option is to just get high on the low, man. For now, anyway.

But I can't really relate. My mom is extremely open minded towards what my siblings and I do. (drugs, ect.) Unfortunately she can't trip or get high with us cuz of mental issues. I've been distant from my dad, but I'd love to do drugs with him. Mom told me his nickname used to be Mescalino.

Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: moonbear on January 24, 2012, 04:01 pm
I think your best option is to just get high on the low, man. For now, anyway.

But I can't really relate. My mom is extremely open minded towards what my siblings and I do. (drugs, ect.) Unfortunately she can't trip or get high with us cuz of mental issues. I've been distant from my dad, but I'd love to do drugs with him. Mom told me his nickname used to be Mescalino.
Your very lucky to have a mom like that. I didn't even mention my mom because I don't care about her and she has said it herself many times, she "hates" me. As far as I'm concerned I don't even have a mom.
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: kisskissbangbang on January 24, 2012, 08:54 pm
i had a rather spectacular crash into depression and temporary homelessness and moved back to my parents, and for some reason when i was rather drunk told my dad about everything. was all right "you're an adult i can't tell you what to do anymore etc etc" and really quite a positive thing. he found some filters and goo from a CWE and just surprised me by asking what they were for and i couldn't say. the guy knows i do h and i couldn't say they were for codeine! what a pussy i am! ahh well.
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: JamesDeansSkull on January 25, 2012, 12:37 am
..... "Mom? Dad? I had been thinking about worshipping Satan, becoming homosexual and killing you in your sleep. Then, I smoked marijuana and all those thoughts disappeared, and I love you!"

You'll be golden.
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: moonbear on January 25, 2012, 01:43 am
..... "Mom? Dad? I had been thinking about worshipping Satan, becoming homosexual and killing you in your sleep. Then, I smoked marijuana and all those thoughts disappeared, and I love you!"

You'll be golden.
I don't think that's gonna work...
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: theradblur on January 25, 2012, 04:15 am
I dunno...sometimes there is no way to convince a parent to think otherwise. The ones that would of accepted your drug use would of gave in a long time ago. I think there comes a point when lecturing and trying to teach them that drugs are "okay" is fruitless. Drugs are bad. We can't kid our selves here. Smoking weed, snorting pills, dropping acid, drinking alcohol are all bad for you. Yes, many stoners will try and convince themselves that weed is different, "it's the safe drug!" There are no safe drugs. Drugs are drugs and no matter what you say they are bad for you physically and mentally. The only problem is who has the right to say you can't do what you want to your own mind and body? In the end you are responsible for yourself, and no one else. I do drugs because I love to get high, and that's all there is to it. You can glorify it, make it into art, but in the end it's just getting high. So please, don't fool yourself that there is a way to make using drugs look good in the minds of your parents. It won't work.
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: Leech on January 25, 2012, 12:08 pm
I have a problem. My parents hate the fact that I use drugs.
My Dad is a respectable man who just doesn't understand the positive side to drugs. He has a doctorate in psychology and even has published work. However, he's adamant in his view on drugs. I want to settle the matter with him without losing his respect for me. He keeps telling me to stop using drugs or he will distance himself from me. What should I do?

Hello, I don't quite understand, in your title it seems you do not know how to tell your dad that you use drugs, but you said he already know you do drugs. My advice is action speaks louder than words, prove yourself with drugs you can do better in study/work (being mentally and physically healthy) and prove yourself to be someone more respectable than what you think your dad would be. Of course isn't that really what you want?
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: moonbear on January 25, 2012, 03:18 pm
I have a problem. My parents hate the fact that I use drugs.
My Dad is a respectable man who just doesn't understand the positive side to drugs. He has a doctorate in psychology and even has published work. However, he's adamant in his view on drugs. I want to settle the matter with him without losing his respect for me. He keeps telling me to stop using drugs or he will distance himself from me. What should I do?

Hello, I don't quite understand, in your title it seems you do not know how to tell your dad that you use drugs, but you said he already know you do drugs. My advice is action speaks louder than words, prove yourself with drugs you can do better in study/work (being mentally and physically healthy) and prove yourself to be someone more respectable than what you think your dad would be. Of course isn't that really what you want?
Yes, it is.

Let me clarify. My dad's known for awhile now, I meant how can I tell him and have him be okay with it, which seems impossible.
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: GORDENRAMSEY on January 25, 2012, 06:30 pm
You can't change other people, (nursing homes excluded)you can only change yourself
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: onestopshop on January 25, 2012, 08:20 pm
Been following the thread since it started, interesting  replies but realised just now..have you tried googling this thread title?
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: moonbear on January 25, 2012, 11:22 pm
Been following the thread since it started, interesting  replies but realised just now..have you tried googling this thread title?
Indeed I have. Nothing on the first page of results even touched what I was looking for, most of the results are "how do I tell if my kid uses drugs". So I came here instead.
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: RickyRango on January 26, 2012, 01:51 am
If your father has threatened to disown you because of your lifestyle, then he has issues that he needs to work out.  A real parent would still love you, IMHO.

Since you're still young, I'd recommend either quitting drugs, or just do them in secret for the time being.  When you get older you'll be able to show him that you're a responsible adult who can take care of himself. 
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: moonbear on January 26, 2012, 02:07 am
If your father has threatened to disown you because of your lifestyle, then he has issues that he needs to work out.  A real parent would still love you, IMHO.

Since you're still young, I'd recommend either quitting drugs, or just do them in secret for the time being.  When you get older you'll be able to show him that you're a responsible adult who can take care of himself.
Quitting drugs? I don't think that will ever happen... thanks for your input anyway though
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: moonbear on January 26, 2012, 10:14 pm
he sounds like another guy who goes for mind power changes everything....hes not a psychiatrist. is he a behaviorist...nature nurture, where on that?  mdma is going theraputic soon......maybe in an office down the hall from his.
I can barely make sense of your post
Title: Re: How do I tell my parents I use drugs?
Post by: toker420 on January 26, 2012, 10:26 pm
Tell your parents to fuck off... I never understood why all these people give a damn what their parents say when they are grown...  If you don't like what they say, don't listen to it, that's the great part about being an adult... Parental rules don't apply anymore.

Hell my little cousin is so scared of his parents, he won't even get a tattoo for fear of their reaction, he's 21 years old. 


Fucking ridiculous, either hide your shit if they don't like it, or be open if they are cool, simple as that.