Made the mistake of trusting a vendor and now I think I am paying for it. Please help!

-----------------------Official Update----------------- The vendor did get back to me and we worked everything out.

He was going through a bunch or IRL stuff and apologized for giving me false hope when he didn't actually plan on doing it.

I got (most) of what I was paying for and because of that I didn't send the other half of the payment.

I am still upset about the shitty communication, but at least I didn't actually get scammed.

I will not post the vendor's name since he did not actually scam me and he assured me that this was an isolated insident. His name should remain clear.

Thanks and have a good day.

----------------------Original Post---------------------

First of all I dont want to disclose to much information here about the vendor for 2 reasons:

  1. He may not be scamming me and I would hate to tarnish his otherwise clean reputation.

  2. He has my address and I do not want to risk pissing him off since he allready has this powerful information of mine.

Anyway, I was asking a vendor about his product. Price, timing, etc. Sent about 20-30 messages between the two of us and he seemed pretty trustworthy. ~97% positive feedback, between 50-100 deals.

He eventually asks me to send him direct payment to avoid market fees. He said he normally wouldnt ask, but since we had prior corrispondence and he was in despreate need for the BTC he offered to give me a small reduction in price. I told him to not worry about that and offered to send half the funds first and the other half when I get it. He agreed. Everything seemed to be going smoothly. That was until my estimated delivery date came by, about 2 weeks ago.

I have been very patient, but I need what I paid for and I dont know what to do.

He responds to me about every 2 or 3 days telling me that it is on its way and telling me how busy he is.

Like I stated earlier, I dont want to get angry with him because he still might come through or do something with my info.

I know it was dumb to trust him to do the deal out of escrow and not right to the market for that matter, but I really was just trying to help the guy out.

Does anyone have any idea what to do in this situation?

If I comfirm that I got scammed I will post his info and a much more detailed story about what happened. I am still afraid that he will do something like leak my info, but I would do that as to prevent anyone else from getting scammed.

Don't waste your time trying to beat me up over this, I have allready done so to myself and realize the error of my ways.

edit: it was a digital good. Originaly mentioned stealth, shipping, and bulk to deteir him from recognizing who I am if he were to read this. Changed my mind and dont care if he sees who I am, I moreso just want to protect his name in the case that he does deliever.


Comments


[8 Points] 9989779988:

Yeah sounds like you got scammed, man. I think he did it direct so you couldn't have left negative feedback.

Ask for a reship/refund, it's really all you can do.


[5 Points] deezyyyy:

Call out the vendor, keep the community informed!


[7 Points] None:

Why would he have any sensitive information about you if it was a digital good??? Did he ship a fucking thumbdrive to your house?


[5 Points] t3hk4hn:

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[3 Points] smoke10joints:

the 20-30 questions seems a bit much. the time it takes a vendor to reply to that many emails is a lot of time spent and may entirely negate any profit earned unless you ordered $1000's worth.

i would just hang in there as the vendor probably got tired of your questions. think about it. each reply probably takes 2-5 minutes. Every 10 replies means 20-50 minutes out of their schedule. With 30 emails you are talking an hour and a half responding to you. now times that by multiple customers.


[2 Points] throwahooawayyfoe:

Just call him the fuck out. If he does come through, then update and apologize for the mistake.


[1 Points] None:

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