It's been 9 days since my order from BV has been marked "shipped".
I messaged BV and the reply I got was to search any and all mail received because the stealth is really that good.
I am wondering if I am stupid and just cannot see it, it hasn't gotten here yet or it may have been picked up by something/someone?
Look through all of the mail you have gotten in your mailbox over the last 9 days since shipped and open anything with your exact address that you gave to him since this is obviously what he put on the package. Shred through all of that and once you are fully convinced that you don't have it (assuming you don't have it) message him back and tell you him you thoroughly searched and tore through all of your mail and can confirm with your 100% surety that you looked to the best of your ability and that you believe it isn't there/didn't arrive. At that point I'm sure he'll be able to go forward with you and do something