I'm Aussie and buy international a bit, but of course I do it through escrow to prevent selective scamming. The thing is, delivery often takes 14+ days and the order auto-finalizes.
I've heard of extending escrow but have no idea how to, I definitely don't see it anywhere. Do I have to dispute? Or does the vendor have power over that? The purpose of escrow is completely defeated if the package takes longer than 14 days to arrive
Also an unrelated question: If an order never arrives and the vendor doesn't offer any sort of refund/reship, is it at all appropriate to leave negative/neutral feedback?
Go ahead and dispute the order. An alphabay moderator will create a message conversation with you & the vendor, just tell him that you have not received the item yet, and would like to increase the escrow time.