I'm Being Blackmailed, please help!!

ok, so a little backstory

I dated this girl awhile back, lets call her Sarah, and we ended up breaking up after dating for like 8 months or so. I ended it with her for a number of reasons, but we still were cool afterwards and still remained friends who talked from time to time.

I have been buying and selling weed, opiates, and MDMA off the darknets for the last few years, before, during, and after seeing this girl. Sarah and I used to take molly together and have crazy sex, and eventually I kind of let her know about my side business.

After we broke up she began seeing this guy named Bob, and she seemed genuinely happy which was cool with me because she would always send me naked pics and weird texts about getting back together. Sarah asked me if she could buy a couple grams of molly for her and bob to do and I said sure and Bob liked it so much (supertrips stuff) he asked Sarah to arrange a deal for a half ounce. I really didn't think much of it and decided to sell it to him. Sarah gave him my number and I sold it to him with no issues.

Fast forward 6 months and I get a random text from Bob's number talking about how Sarah had been cheating on him and all this other weird shit talking about her parents and just generally psychotic shit. I just decided not to respond, because i didn't want to be involved with either of their drama, and then about a month later Bob started threatening me for selling drugs, saying he was going to contact my employer (I work a white collar job that has a very strict drug policy), call my family/friends, report me to my landlords etc.

I have literally done nothing to this guy, and for the past 3-4 months I get random late night texts from him continuing to threaten me about various things. I have a string of probably 50 texts that I haven't responded to. I should also point out that he has gone crazy on sarah as well- she actually had to have a retraining order placed on this psycho.

Well last week Bob finally made good on 1 threat- I don't want to go into what it was, but he basically told someone close to me I was a drug dealer and now im scared he could follow through on the others.

I don't want to stop selling, but I really don't want to get arrested- what are your thoughts?


Comments


[42 Points] DinoNeedsMe:

Ok, here is my advice to you, as someone who has kind of been through a similar situation.

  1. Stop all of your selling (for now), and clean house. If the guy tips off police, they could at the very least start surveilling you, which could lead to a search warrant, and consequently, your ass in jail.

  2. If ANYONE asks, police or otherwise, deny everything.

  3. Report him for harassment. You are an exboyfriend of a girl he dated. It is not a stretch at all for you to say that that's the reason for the harassment. Especially since your ex has a restraining order against him, it paints him in a bad light. If possible, get a restraining order yourself.

  4. Chill. It will take some time for everything to blow over. Don't do a damn thing to bring any suspicion on yourself.

Yeah, it sucks that this guy is messing with you and your livelihood. It really fucking sucks. But you can NOT afford to take any chances here, not with something as precious as your freedom. Good luck.


[25 Points] DaMenehune:

That isn't blackmail. It is harassment. You have info on that tool, use it. Jack him up so hard he won't be able to think about you with all the shit he is in and has to deal with..


[7 Points] lickcunt2:

uhh bro if everyone knows hes psycho then you have nothing to worry about just chill for a while and deny deny deny... its called a Costanza put it to use


[9 Points] None:

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[7 Points] DrQuarters_:

Why don't you take a couple hard pipe hittin' niggas to go to town on Mr.SoonToBeLivingTheRestOfHisShortLifeInAgonizingPain?


[6 Points] None:

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[4 Points] evoago:

but some feces from DNM and ship it to his house


[4 Points] Burnitplease:

well the good news is you sound like you live in US. SOOOO LE cannot just come into your house because Bitch Tits Bob said you do/sell drugs. They need probable cause to serve a warrant. Also judging by your names i would say you're white. So there is also that. Just don't make any new "friends" if you know what i mean. Slowly get the drugs outta your house, bring them here to my house. ASAP.


[3 Points] CharlieSheed:

What a piece of shit. Bitch ass bob probably found out she was texting you those pics


[5 Points] Throwup8675309:

Quit selling and taking drugs for awhile so if you get searched/UA you'll pass and tell everyone Bob is a psycho douchebag and get a restraining order on him to back it up if you have to.


[3 Points] DrQuarters_:

Stop selling drugs and get him for slander and harassment. Then sell drugs again in a little while. If you work a white collar job you shouldnt need the money


[1 Points] RottenLittleKid:

You're not going to be arested because some random asshole is making accusations, without proof he is nowhere, and in fact you should be contacting the police about his harassment.

only my opinion, of course


[4 Points] None:

That sucks man. Keep ignoring him and if he comes near you get a restraining order yourself.

I wouldn't be all that worried, it is his word against yours and this guy obviously has a chip on his shoulder. Any crazy person that didn't like you could make up some shit, since he is dating your ex it would lend more credence to the idea that he is making shit up. You might want to quit using drugs for a while just in case your employer drug tests you.

This is a good reason why you should never tell anyone about your dnm activities! Learn from it and best of luck.


[3 Points] MrNotGuilty:

Its not blackmail unless he wants something in return to be quiet. You leave that part out? or its just harassment, from a crazy distraught ex. He might just come to your house and blow your brains out.


[3 Points] throwahooawayyfoe:

One more thing you could do... Go straight to the cops and tell them you're being blackmailed by this asshole. Blackmail is a very serious crime and he'll get in a shit ton more trouble for that than you ever will if he follows through with his threats. If they have it on file that you came to them, they'll treat the case as if you're the victim (which you are) and bring down the full force of the law on the fucktard.


[1 Points] None:

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[1 Points] anonish9:

It could be too late but if you use Facebook lock your friends list/employment so only you can see it.


[1 Points] 1ReviewReviewer1:

Possible he started getting aggressive because you didn't reply to his 'reaching out' message about his GF cheating, and may suspect it's with you, which is why your ignoring him? May be worth it to reach out, make sure you both are on the same page. May be some misunderstanding to solve it if you just make contact. Doesnt change the fact that he's a huge dickhead, but may at least solve the initial problem


[1 Points] 1ugly:

Yup order that heavy shit, Heron, Crack, Meth, have a meth addict act as a witness, or whatever its called, to say that yes he indeed sold him drugs. and they were fucking good too. By the time he is out, you should have disappeared, cleaned up, and most and formost NEVER TRUST A BITCH. All you gotta say, Im goin to work. "What do you do?" response: "Whatever I gotta do to feed that dirty mouth of yours, now open up, im gonna stab u before you stress me out some more" WOOOOOOO


[1 Points] sharpshooter789:

Clean house just to be safe but chances they won't believe him.


[1 Points] awesometacos900:

Fuck Bob. I say send him the shit.


[1 Points] None:

Get a full dox setup, go to that txt4free website and use it through Tor. Send him, send him a close family members home and work address, tell him you're an associate of YOUR NAME HERE and that you know of his loud mouth, and leave it at that. Send him his address, moms address, sisters address, etc. + any phone numbers.

If this doesn't work, skip paying thousands to have him put away for ever in the dirt, just send him a couple hundred dollars worth of MDMA with zero stealth. Boom. He goes to jail.

Also, I don't suggest taking any of my advice.


[1 Points] 080997:

well if i were i your shoes id give him "cocaine" that was actually no#4 heroin as a bit of compensation , ask him to test it there and then , when he nods out remove his clothes and dump him in a playground , problem solved . get rid of ALL your stash first and when asked about it say he came to your house bitching about his relationship and you didnt want o get involved so he started doing lines then took off his cloths and suggested you have sex with him before running outside screaming that noone loved him, and if he dies .. to bad tough luck he fucked with the wrong guy , plus the autopsy will just say drug OD


[1 Points] puppet22:

Beat him within an inch of his life;

Or hired goons via the DNM


[1 Points] dmnthrowaway122112:

Use one of the vendors to send a box of shit to his house


[1 Points] Jaymacmac:

No surprise he's gone nuts after doing a half ounce of MD or whatever it was in six months.


[1 Points] None:

Meet him face to face and have a nice genuine conversation about what's going on, and be very kind, it's easy to make threats over text but if you look him in his eyes and talk in a calm relaxed nice ways this tough guy might try to act like a dick but once you respond with love he'll feel like an idiot and talk himself into a hole and will probably kill himself when he gets home.


[1 Points] None:

Meet him face to face and have a nice genuine conversation about what's going on, and be very kind, it's easy to make threats over text but if you look him in his eyes and talk in a calm relaxed nice ways this tough guy might try to act like a dick but once you respond with love he'll feel like an idiot and talk himself into a hole and will probably kill himself when he gets home.


[1 Points] goodluckbrah:

Yes, throwaway for this question.

here's what I'd do.

  1. clean house. I mean rip your house appart and trash your computer, or at least wipe it. fresh OS, ect(although you SHOULD be using Tails, but if you didn't you didn't). if you have product on hand see if anyone you trust wants to buy it at cost, if nobody says they want it on the spot, burn it.

  2. deny, deny deny.

  3. get a new cell phone number. Hell, new cell phone. Track phones are like, $50 bucks. Better yet get a blackphone.

  4. after doing the above, see if you can get a restraining order as well. or at least a no contact order. he texts you again, you call the cops.

  5. try to relax, if you do 1-4 they've got nothing on you. testimony from one crazy dude won't get you in trouble, especially if you have filed for a restraining order.

  6. do NOT, get a gun. It'll look sketchy if someone with drug trafficing accusations buys a gun, because of stigmas. instead, get a couple cans of bear mace. http://www.amazon.com/Mace-Brand-Bear-Pepper-Spray/dp/B0002YSWIQ If he comes at you in person, he's going to the hospital. Possibly dying.

You don't wanna play with this guy, or LE. If you weren't involved with DNM or drugs in general (especially Molly that shit gets crazy penalties), then yea, maybe you could stomp his shit. But right now it looks like he's trying to provoke you.

btw, has he made any demands? Like, is he trying to squeeze you?


[1 Points] throwitbitchass:

Sounds like Bob needs to get what he deserves


[1 Points] SirFoxx:

The Darkside of me says to handle this like they would on "The Soprano's" or " Sons of Anarchy".

The not-so-Darkside of me says clean house, stop all activity and file a restraining order and keep clean for awhile.


[1 Points] Theeconomist1:

You could use that shit service I've seen advertised. Send him a nice pile of shit.


[0 Points] None:

This sounds like "your an idiot". Never trust ex's no matter how much they seem like "friends".


[0 Points] self-suc-4-days:

I created this throw away to chime in. Something similar happened beetween me and the vendor as well and if he ever hears or thinks of the phrase "self-suck" he will think of me. Thats all I have to say. He may have ripped me off but I scarred him for life.


[-2 Points] jimmyd1987:

ok, this is were my growing up in the roughest town in the uk can help. text him saying "if you ever text my phone again i'll come over to your house and stamp your fucking face in". i fairly confident that should end it. violence is always an option and one that mr crazy i bet never suspects is coming. he'll probably have a breakdown and get scared to leave his own house in case you're coming for him.