Vendor lied about samples, am I in the wrong?

I ordered from a relatively new vendor about 2 weeks ago. He had pretty silly low prices for relatively expensive product as an introductory thing. I placed the order because I figured at worst I'd be out 40 bucks. I honestly regretted making the order after I did it because it just seemed too good to be true/scammy.

Well, it turns out it wasn't a scam. The vendor had poor communication, but 3 days after marked shipped, I received my product and to my surprise it was some of the best I've ever had. I did a few reviews for him on the DNM Onion forums (Avengers etc) and praised him highly, for which he was very grateful...

Now, a day or so later, HE sent ME a message asking me if it would be okay if he sent me a package with a free gram or so of a new product in exchange for a review. Keep in mind, I never asked him for shit, he came to me with this proposition. I obviously jumped on it and gave him my address again etc. He told me Tuesday of last week it had been shipped out. I made sure to stress to him that it was cool if he couldn't send it for whatever reason, I didn't just want a handout, but he basically insisted.

So fast forward to over a week later, I'd messaged him several times thru the week and he was ignoring my messages. Again, I gave him an out by saying I understood if he couldn't do it. Still, no reply whatsoever...so finally after a week I reached my breaking point. I hadn't placed any orders of said product because I figured I did not need to since this pack was in the mail and the last pack from him only took 3 days...

It never arrived, as I stated earlier, so I decided after seeing him just straight up ignoring messages, I needed to do something in order to let him know that treating a person like that is unacceptable, so I edited my feedback on my previous order to a rather negative one, knocking points off because of the fact he was the one who insisted, and left me high and dry. The drugs in question are the type that cause severe withdrawals, so when you are counting on something like that and you go to the mailbox day after day only to be disappointed. Not to mention I'd given him my name and address yet again, so who knows what he did with that.

After he saw my negative review, suddenly he was VERY talkative and told me he was sorry and that he just forgot to send it (even though at one point he said he'd "sent it out yesterday" earlier). So he agreed he would send me a sample package with a generous amount of product in exchange for me changing my review back.

So basically, I just want to know if I'm in the wrong here. I can honestly see both sides of the coin, and a part of me feels like a piece of shit, but the other part of me sees it as blatant disrespect by a vendor who needed a reality check that you cannot just lie to people and leave them with their dick in their hand, waiting for a package that wasn't ever going to come, all while being ignored.

Sorry if this is all over the place, I'm a bit buzzed right now. Any opinions? Good or bad, I want to hear it. Thanks.


Comments


[21 Points] SmauqDrogs:

I think you did wrong when you changed your feedback. Your agreement wasn't related to the order and blackmailing him was kind of a dick move.


[6 Points] noonehear:

What is with all these people that expect to conduct a conversation with their vendors?

I consider a great vendor one whom with I never have to communicate with once....


[5 Points] Wanted_drugs_2day:

You're both right and wrong. Keep communication open with him and don't jump any guns. Give him a chance to make right, especially if he's a newer vendor as he probably doesn't have his process cemented yet.


[4 Points] Theeconomist1:

I don't know if there is a wrong or right answer. Generally speaking I consider a review on a vendor as a review on that particular transaction. That transaction was reviewed. If the edits contained the context you gave here, then it's probably okay. Obviously if you downgraded that transaction without context it's misleading.

However given that it's a new vendor and the transactions were close in time, it's more understandable why you'd edit the review as long as the context was given.

I don't think there is a right or wrong way necessarily. Just different approaches. I tend to view reviews as more a review of a transaction at that point in time Bc we know the shakiness of the business we are in. It's known that a good vendor yesterday doesn't guarantee a good one tomorrow.

If you rated him poorly without telling the full story I think that's wrong. Was it wrong if him to offer something and not follow through? Absolutely. And I assume the product is an opioid. Or maybe a benzo. And I know the pain of those withdrawals so I get why you'd be peeved. For a free sample I guess I wouldn't rely on it from anyone. But the vendor could have absolutely handled this way better.

I don't think you were necessarily wrong as long as you provided context. He should have told you there would be a delay. Bc I think most of us understand that if he sold product, the free samples would be on the bottom of the priority list. But regardless the vendor should have communicated with you and I'd like to know if I may be getting dicked around by a vendor.

So no, as long as you were as detailed here, you weren't in the wrong. Obviously if you made it out like you never got that first sample, that's misleading. I don't get the sense you did that, just throwing it out. I think you could have made another review or did like you did and edit a prior one given it was recent. Both are fine IMO. Personally I would have made another review. But that's just my style. It's not the right way. It's just one of the ways


[1 Points] Vendor_BBMC:

You're a nightmare customer. He was probably at his mum's Christmas / new Year. An absence of words isn't disrespect. It isn't anything, but you've turned nothing into something and over-reacted by using past feedback as a blackmail tool and wrecking the feedback of a new vendor.

It kinda serves the vendor right for getting involved with a "reviewer". It saddens me to see how some people will tell lies just to get a bit of drugs.

On any kind of amphetamine, be careful not to replace silence with mind-reading. Now you're in a position where the vendor has done nothing but good, but you've only done selfish shit.


[1 Points] None:

Was this the vendor with the smiley and anonymous blotter samples?


[1 Points] None:

Kinda dirty man. I would t ha e done that. But to each his own


[-1 Points] GoOnAndWalkItOut:

Fuck, that was a long, long, repetitive post on my end and I apologize to anyone who bothers reading it...