How many "friends" do you older folks have

I remember growing up thinking my parents were weird because they never had close friends and I had a bunch in highschool. Obiously the whole highschool thing ended and college started but even after that i find it not as stange anymore to not care to have a big group of friends. I've been fucked over many times and i see why my parents shyed away from groups. I have maybe like 2-3 people i consider close but thats about it, sad because i consider myself still very young. How many friends do you guys in late 30's to 40's have?


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[16 Points] None:

I'll allow this post. Rule six is in place for a reason but it isn't necessarily there for threads like this. Sometimes it can be interesting to hear the perspective of DNM users on subjects that aren't drugs.

Also, for OP or anyone else reading this comment, we do have an off-topic Thursday thread each week for discussions like this. Maybe we can get more content posted there.

Anyway, I don't consider myself old but I am older than a lot of people here I guess. I have two close friends but I rarely see them these days since they are married and have kids now.

It seems like most people only have a handful of trusted friends. Consider yourself lucky, some people don't have any!


[6 Points] None:

this thread is so fucking depressing holy shit

we may be lonely asocial fuckers but at least we get the best drugs to be found on the planet, delivered to our home. I'm candyflipping in honor to this sentiment.


[6 Points] Theeconomist1:

LOL- same situation here. My parents really didn't have friends, esp as they got older. I remember when I was young they did have people they'd go out with but that dwindled down adn tohught they were lame. But I'm the same way. I really don't have any friends at all. I have 2 people that I do keep in touch with long term BUT we don't really hang out much at all. I don't have time TBH and I'm a bit selfish and tend to not put the efforts into a friendship. I do have "virtual" friendships here which ironically I put more effort in than IRL. I'd love to hang out with them IRL but alas, that'll never happen. I think mostly b/c the people I know aren't into drugs really. they love drinking but I don't like drinking. I don't like how it makes me feel, i don't like how it wears me out the next day.

I'm in the age range you are asking about and I have really no friends. And I'm fine with that. Its funny b/c people will put in the effort to try to hang out with me but I blow them off and they end up giving up. I meet some newer people, they try to set up shit to hang out, I blow them off, they give up. Pretty much teh cycle. I just don't have much interest in maintaining friendships tbh. I dont' really see the point. I'm married and we are close, so she would be my only friend. And I'm pretty much her only friend too and that's fine with us. I will hang out with people for business purposes and such but that's not really a friend per se. I did have a lot of friends in high school and college. I was an athlete so I got around.

I know a shitload of people and I know nobody.


[5 Points] Dnm_cunt:

I had a great bunch of friends & an awesome girlfriend along with a very active social life. I lost all of them because I got really fucked up on Benzos for while. I turned into a complete fucking moron and ruined my relationship with everyone. I was a total cunt and I don't blame them. I wish I could change it all but I guess this falls under the whole 'live & learn' philosophy.

I can relate my addiction directly the DNMs & bitcoin, I hate to say it. I was well into bitcoin and was an early miner. As soon as I discovered SR1 that was it for me. Having all this 'drug currency' was too fucking good to be true. I had a blast for a few years but it started to affect my day to day life very negatively in a lot of aspects. Work, Uni, Relationships, Money... It all started slipping and unfortunately I had a very big stash of drugs on hand to deal with the stress.

I say to people when I try to explain it: "Drugs weren't the problem, they were the solution." They are exactly what you need when you can't deal with the world and just want to forget.

I don't consider myself to have had a drug problem. I had real problems that led me to take - and continue taking drugs just to chill the fuck out. And I had this amazing online marketplace where I could source anything I wanted so efficiently - with literally free money.


[5 Points] aboutthednm:

Did you post this in the wrong subreddit by chance? This is /r/DarkNetMarkets FYI


[3 Points] dragon_fiesta:

Not many and I don't trust people who are too eager to become friends


[2 Points] CocoGr:

I don't care to much about friends, I just want a god damn GF. I have friends but we don't really hang out. I'm also slightly under the age you are requesting answers from


[2 Points] schwillynelson89:

I'm 26 and out of college and have realized that making real friends after leaving a college town is hard as fuck, at least for me. I have met a fair amount of fake ass corporate type bros around my age who I'll drink a few brews with and share a few lines on occasion, but I only really have like 5-10 close buddies that I can truly trust/rely on. Seems like a lot of people I have met only hit you up only if there is a benefit for them or something like that. Hard to explain...


[2 Points] Vendor_BBMC:

I haven't got any friends, just acquaintances If you become a darknet vendor, you have to gradually slip out of everybody's lives. Eventually they go for months without thinking about you. Its like being unemployed but more isolating.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BRR9LRSNsk0

You get 2 types of friends when you are oilder - normal ones, and friends you share a rented house with. You get to know a person when you live in the same place, and they tend to become friends who you can not see for a year or two, then feel perfectly comfortable with within a minute of meeting up with them.

I haven't been out or seen another person since Thursday evening. I need to get some cat food for Quantik the stripey orange lab cat..


[2 Points] bobbiggs69:

I'm mid thirties and I really have no friends. Just me and the old lady.

I have lots of friends back home and when there's a wedding or some other rare occasion we get together. I just spent a weekend at my buddy's cabin over the summer while everyone was back for a wedding and we had about 15 close friends there. We had a keg, liquor, fireworks, guns, and strippers. It was just like old times. However, those kinds of things are few and far between.

The thing is, when you're older, all of your good man friends get linked to a ball and chain and put a regular supply of pussy ahead of fucking off with their bros. I can't say I blame them.

The worst is when you have to move to a new city as a guy over thirty. I did it in my twenties and gained plenty of friends pretty quick. After thirty, it becomes pretty difficult to find friends. There are people at work, but they never want to do anything but the occasional cook-out because they're too busy with their own families.

Basically, all chicks are Yoko. They fuck it up for all of us with their evil vaginas. That is, unless you're the one getting that vagina...


[1 Points] None:

There are NO friends with heroin, meth & cocaine!!!! You have friends with weed, MDMA & acid!!!! I have no friends ;-) ;-) ;-)


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[1 Points] jtronicustard:

I was very popular in high school but have many fewer friends now. Some of this is bc I work in a very competitive job that allows little free time. I think men tend to have fewer friends than women in general, but even this varies quite a bit from person to person.


[1 Points] None:

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[1 Points] Clix828:

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What is this?


[1 Points] Eudaimonichenosis:

I have one very close friend besides my wife. I have maybe a dozen casual friends. I have many more casual acquaintances and professional relationships than my 20's and 30's. Although I have fewer close friends the quality of friendship is leagues better now.


[1 Points] None:

My parente had a couple of friends when i was younger. They were in there late 30s,in the mid 90s. I remember going to bonfires and shit with these idiots my dad hung out with. They all eventually screwed him over. They were potheads n acted chill as shit too. Mom has a few friends.

I have a couple but im only 30 do i count? :)


[1 Points] _FreshAccount_:

Friends are for suckers.


[1 Points] None:

Im in my mid 20's but I only have like 10-15 good friends.


[1 Points] None:

I was always a person to only have a few close friends even when young. My sister had 20x as many friends but for a long time, not a single close one she could rely on.

These days (40s) I have one very close mate that I see regularly and would trust with my life.

2 others I would consider close but have not seen in years.

maybe 5 mates that if they disappeared, it would not be a big deal.


[1 Points] None:

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[1 Points] crystaldust:

my best friends is a celebrity, so i have had to struggle with that. him being famous and having opportunities to work with other famous people makes me less interesting, or that's how i feel. when I was young I had lots of friends, when I was throwing events and parties etc.. when i got married my x wife got rid of all my local friends. i keep maybe a hundred real and virtual friends on facebook, i go through and delete them all the time. like if i knew you in high school and we where friends but haven't seen you since and you haven't messaged me since, i will probably delete you unless i really liked you. my mother has twenty four brothers and sisters so most of facebook was family for me until i deleted them all. i live in a area now where I don't know anybody so virtual friends is all i have right now.


[1 Points] None:

few good ones.


[1 Points] JburnaDNM:

Im 31 and I have 1 friend who I rarely hang out with. Being broke and with a family the opportunities do not present themselves like they did in highschool. I felt the exact same way op.


[1 Points] Mintfrappucino:

In my 30s, have maybe two friends that'd help me move if I smoked them Out all day. One friend far away that's more like a brother


[1 Points] rabbit_hole_diver:

im too tired and busy to have friends at this point. i have my close circle of 3 friends ive known since forever and thats honestly all i need. im not interested in befriending guys unless theres some type of financial benefit. im not married and have no kids and dont want any. one day ill settle but thats not today.

i like being alone. it doesnt bother me.


[1 Points] dnmadvocate:

"Evolution is a story, and it's not a good story. It's a story of a forced march -- 4 billions years of little machines struggling to trip the other guy, to fuck the other guy over, to eat the other guy's guts. There's organisms all over this planet who's only mission is to dig a hole inside of you and to eat your fucking brains. Don't talk to me how balanced, brilliant, and purposeful, and niche-ey all this crap is; that's not a legitimate niche."


[1 Points] None:

Honestly your parents probably had quiet a few friends but as you grow up you have new commitments. Once you reach 21 onwards you tend to have a job and maybe a relationship so you focus most of your life on that and so do your friends. Once your out of Highschool and schooling in general you soon realise those "friends" were only around because you had to be there 5 days a week.

It has very little to do with people fucking you around and more to do with people growing up and start off their lives. You can't just sit on your ass all day playing games/smoking bongs etc anymore.


[1 Points] an_illegal_smile:

One less as of yesterday. :( Depends on what you mean by "friends", too. I'm active in a lot of causes and so I know many fellow activists, but we aren't always friendly on a personal level outside of our common cause. I tend to be a little bit of a loner naturally, I love to go on camping trips hiking or kayaking where I know I probably won't see anyone for days and will just have my dogs for company. But I have three really good women friends, a couple of drinking-buddy, pal-around type friends of both genders, and a lot of acquaintances (people from work, from church, etc.) I know all of my neighbors and their names and phone numbers and their kids' names -- some of us share house keys for petsitting etc -- and I get the sense that's not the case for most people any more. And I have a large extended family and we're all close, I suppose that counts too. Brothers and sisters and aunts and uncles and cousins and second cousins and third cousins and great-aunts and great-great-grandnieces and -nephews and what all, there's like a hundred of us total.

Edit: Forgot to put my age. Mid-fifties.


[1 Points] UncleRays:

AND IN MY CRIB IM ALONE NOW CUZ I COULD NEVER GET MYSELF TO CALL A BITCH MY BABY BOO!


[-3 Points] Tweek-er_Timmy:

aww how cute you younguns are thinkin you have friends.

wait til your cellmates. only then will you find out who's real and who's not. see how many ya have when your released. bet money that number will be less. live an learn.